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more of a wwyd - a stranger who has been really good to us.

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ithoughtofitfirst · 23/09/2014 14:42

We live in the middle of a housing estate that's being built in phases. Our block of flats was one of the first finished but since we've lived here there have been about 20 houses built around the back.

A man in a fork lift would drive passed our living room window upwards of 50 times a day but every time he did he would wave at ds in the window. We called him digger man for ages because we didn't know his name but we did get to know him more over the months and learned his name, a bit about his life and he would always stop and let my son look at the digger. Whenever i was struggling to get ds in his pram or with shopping he would help in some way. He even gave ds a little card for his 2nd birthday addressed 'to my little friend' and a ten pound note inside.

He's been gone for about a month and we've really missed him. On my way to my scan this morning the site manager stops me to tell me he is very seriously ill and won't be working again.

I really want to do a nice gesture for him but don't know what, i don't know where he lives but i reckon i could get something forwarded to him through the site manager as he will no doubt have his details.

Wwyd? I'd really appreciate suggestions. I'm thinking card or letter but i feel like i want to do more. I don't think he has any family Sad

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IScreamForIceCream · 23/09/2014 14:46

A card / picture from DS would be lovely.
Just a few words, saying how much you appreciate him, how much he helped you, wishing him all the best? Your OP was lovely, so I am sure that however you word it, it will be just right.

RedPony · 23/09/2014 14:46

Oh no Sad maybe you could get your Ds to draw him a picture and send a nice card?

LemonBreeland · 23/09/2014 14:47

Typed a message that disapperaed, argh!

I think it's really lovely to do something for this man. I would get DS to do a picture or something as part of it, as he has obviously taken him into his heart.

Such a sad situation.

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 23/09/2014 14:47

That's so sad. I'd expect that your family gave him some pleasure as you got to know him in passing.

Hopefully someone will come up with a good idea for a small gift but I think a card would be appreciated. It's always nice to hear that you're missed and that you are appeciated.

LemonBreeland · 23/09/2014 14:48

Cross posted with others while my computer was being silly. I agree with IScream that a note saying how he has touched your lives would be lovely.

ApocalypseNowt · 23/09/2014 14:49

Something simple like a card (with a drawing from ds in it) and a box of chocolates would be brilliant. I'm sure he'd be touched to know he's missed x

Gudgyx · 23/09/2014 14:49

Wow that made me cry :(

Please send him a wee card with a picture your DS has drawn him, some nice words from you. He sounds like a lovely man, what a shame.

cherrybombxo · 23/09/2014 14:50

Aww he sounds absolutely lovely, I'm sorry to hear that he is ill. Definitely a card and a drawing from your DS, maybe some flowers. I'd want to do something too.

LadyLuck10 · 23/09/2014 14:50

A nice card, with a few words from your DS. If you could be sure he would get it and if you could spare, maybe a little basket of a few bits, like a pack of nice biscuits, some tea, something from your DS? It's not often that people show such kindness without expectation and he sounds like a nice man.

HansieLove · 23/09/2014 14:51

I would send him a note saying how much you and DS liked watching for The Digger Man (I would use that term, he will like it, I'm sure). How DS misses him. I'd include a photograph of your son, and a picture your son has drawn.

furcoatbigknickers · 23/09/2014 14:53

Ahh he sounds lovely and so do you. A picture and a letter explaing how you apprecated him would be nice.

ithoughtofitfirst · 23/09/2014 14:55

I know i cried when the site manager told me bless him he looked a bit mortified that his news made me upset.

I love the idea of a drawing. I think my boy would enjoy making him a card. I will definitely buy him a little something too but a drawing would be so cute.

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ithoughtofitfirst · 23/09/2014 14:57

Thanks everyone lovely suggestions.

Sorry my 'i know' wasn't i know i'm lovely lol!

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furcoatbigknickers · 23/09/2014 14:58

Ds (nearly 2) was very happy when the refuge collectirs stopped to wave say hello this morning. Very sweet of them.

DialMforMummy · 23/09/2014 15:04

Can you and DS bake him a cake or some biscuits? With a home-made card, I think that would be lovely.
What a nice chap.

Paraibalove · 23/09/2014 15:06

Ohh this is so sad.

definitely do something. A card, and some home made biccies. I wonder if the site manager would give you his address as a one off.

Georgethesecond · 23/09/2014 15:08

The site manager can just forward the card on. No need to ask for an address that he shouldn't give out.

MyFairyKing · 23/09/2014 15:38

He sounds lovely and so do you. I agree that a card from DS with a note from you sounds just perfect.

It warms the cockles of my heart to know that there are good people around.

claraschu · 23/09/2014 15:50

If you have a bit of spare cash, you and DS could have fun putting together a small parcel with a few edible treats, a drawing, card, and photograph, and a new pair of slipper socks or something like that.

I think he would love just getting a card, but a small present would be fun too.

vjg13 · 23/09/2014 16:07

I think a card and picture or letter would be lovely. I would put a stamp on it too to make it easy for the site manager to send on.

OnlyLovers · 23/09/2014 16:15

Oh, how sad but how lovely as well. Poor man.

Totally agree about a card/drawing by your DS. I think that's enough, TBH, but quite like the slipper socks idea above too!

kayty · 23/09/2014 17:19

How about including a photo of your DS, maybe of him drawing the picture for him?

kayty · 23/09/2014 17:21

(Sorry, I missed the post suggesting a photo)

ithoughtofitfirst · 23/09/2014 18:20

Thanks everyone really appreciate it. I went to town to get some blank card making cards just now and we'll have a sesh making one later. I'll have a think about what to say in the card this evening. Then when i buy stamps i'll get a photo of ds developed, a nice recent one.

Flowers thanks again xxx

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ithoughtofitfirst · 23/09/2014 18:22

I think he was partial to a biscuit and cuppa too so if i can get his address i could send him a little gift.

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