to offer a free babysitting, snack prooviding and trampoline classes to all and sundry?

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I shall rise above it as dc are happy, however the little girl from over the road is here all the time, she said they were just going to ask her mum if my dd's could play at her house, they havve been there once in 5 years. They have all trouped back, apparently she said no. She is here sometimes for up to 5 hours in the summer, her mum doesnt know me from adam, I work shifts and have had a really stressful day today. She literally hangs around on the front waiting for us to come back when we go out. She is a nice girl though and I feel quite sorry for her.

Aw, poor lass. I was like your kids. Always had people over at mine when I was wee. Our house was a bit of a mess all the time and parents aren't the house proud type, so they never minded us being about. I found the parents who always said no were the ones that couldn't put the hoover down! x)

I've noticed lots of posts like this on here. I am amazed so many parents allow their children to spend hours uninvited at someone's house who they barely know! Can you not say to her 'Right I'm afraid it's time for you to go home now, we have things to do'.?

YABU to do it if you don't want to.

How old are these children?

mine are 8 and ten, I think this girl is 6 or 7, this has been going on since she was about 4. I dont mind really she will go home without fuss when asked.

It's a shame that her mum isn't reciprocating, I can understand why you're frustrated. Your house is obviously a fun place to be and your DC seem to enjoy her company but YANBU to not want any guests after a hard day at work and set some boundaries. If her visits impinge on you spending time with your kids or begin to really grate then I'd look to change these patterns.

This is me there are 7 children in my garden right now. My house isn't the tidiest on this street and I know one of their mum's thinks I'm the slack parent because there's always homework or craft on the table before and after dinner. I let it slide (the constant visitors) on non activity days, so it is now reduced to twice a week and the occaisional weekend day where we have no plans. They never go round the other's houses and honestly after the sexist nonsense one mum came up with I'd rather they steer clear.