To want dcs to be quiet in the evening?

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My nerves are completly frazzled. I am sahm to 4 dcs, 12,9, 5 and nearly 2.

During the school holidays and at weekends we more iften than not let the dcs stay up (nr 2 year old stays up anyway) The rules are, sit quietly and watch tv or go and play jn the other room. Dcs just don't seem able to do it. Constantly talking, asking for things, making demands, winding little one up, arguing etc.

Im seriously considering sending them all (except little one) up at school night times. I let dd1 and 2 watch x factor, dd2 was really looking forward to it. All they dud was talk through it and wind baby up. I sent them to bed, they stomped off.

Now I feel shit and totally wrung out.

Bar superglue?

I'm mean. All mine are in bed by 7.30pm (6 and under). If one is having a bad evening I banish them to my bedroom to watch a movie. Divide and conquer is the way to go, then they have no one to talk to.

No thats not mean at all!! Tres sensible.

I split them up, then ignore. I've three girls, and they Never Stop Talking. They know I've had enough once The Archers them tune starts.

My 3 are the same age as 3 of yours (don't have a 5 year old) and I can fully sympathise! They seem to get a second wind just after tea no matter how busy the day has been or how early they get up - I tend to banish the older 2 to their rooms at around 7.30ish and the toddler stays downstairs until her bedtime at 8.30.
Quiet (not silence, just civilised behaviour and no shouting) is expected after 8pm so they can wind down after baths/showers.

7pm is that start of 'adult time' in this house.

No running around, no loud noises, no mess, no yammering on about nothing (as kids do), no arguing or fighting, no toys all over the floor and no kids stuff on TV.

Sit with us, talk sense, make some airfix or lego, read a book quietly, watch our TV programs with us (so long as they are child appropriate and without constantly talking).

If you can't do these things then go to bed.

I've got all this to come haven't i?!! I live in a flat too. SCARED.

I have a 12 and 10 yo. We only watch TV together if they are quiet. I clear them out of the room to watch 'my programs' if they get too noisy. I might sky+ it for them, so they can catch up at a different time...

YaNBU at all.

I thought.... You are doomed

Im glad to see its not just me. Im currently on the sofa with the toddler and 5 year old who are watching cbeebies.... Its so peaceful, the big ones are out playing

Im going to banish the upstairs by 9 from now on and no messing about from 7 at weekends/ school hols.

I would love to say silence after 7 but thats when dh gets in and winds them up plus while its light i wont see the 9 year old ax shes out playing and 12 year old is usually doing homework until then.

I struggle to get my 2.5yo in bed by 8 (sometimes it's 9 i'm very ashamed to say) he just gets this second wind of the crazies from about 6. Like just now he was beating his head against my chest screaming boooooobies!!

I don't know how you juggle all the different ages and age appropriate activities/bedtimes! Absolute hero IMO

I have 4 boys, even the adult one goes off to his room about 9 ish to give us some peace, the 11 year old is up there from around 8.30 the 20 month old about the same time and the 3 year old goes between 6-8

I need a few hours peace at night!

Mine are currently in the woods with an old tyre and a bit of string screaming like banshees.
Noisy dirty kids is happy kids

Agreed! No one can accuse me of having an unhappy child at least

Personally I never use bed as a punishment.

Makes every time you send them to bed a punishment then.

I know that's not helpful but just saying. I let DS stay up but he has to have quiet time in his room. Reading, playing games, hot wheels etc.

TV obviously riles them up.

Ithoughtof ... Thank you ive given up on trying to get littlies who don't need to be up for school off yo bed its toooo hard. Im at feeding 2 year old, although i fid it with last dc so know its taxing too!! You are doing a grand job

Thatbloody.... Agreed, ds always grubby often dirty!!