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Not sure why this bugs me so much

31 replies

SipsTea · 21/09/2014 15:27

I have friends who have taken photos (on the sly) of random members of the public with the purpose of posting said photos on social media to mock them. Some have removed/cropped out any identifying attributes, others haven't.

In both cases, it makes my stomach turn, especially at the thought of someone doing the same to me or family or friends etc etc.

I've called out these "friends" and, more often than not, been told to wind my neck in as they are just 'bantering', being "lighthearted" etc.

So, AIBU to think it's a horrid thing to do? And AIBU in calling people out for doing it? Frankly, I think it would be much easier to sit on my hands and say nothing and just quietly unfollow/unfriend them.

This isn't really a question about the validity of social media. It would still make me shudder and I would probably say the same thing if a friend were showing me photos in person that were taken under the same circumstances.

I can totally understand someone recounting something or someone that made them laugh, but somehow taking a photo just seems a step too far (or is that hypocritical?)

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oldgrandmama · 21/09/2014 21:45

I think it's legal to photograph people in public, but not to publish the photos if they can be recognised, unless they've signed a release. But do correct me if I'm wrong.

Fcukfifa · 21/09/2014 21:52

I hate these too, the one that sticks in my mind was the woman who breastfeeding on a step somewhere and someone posted a picture slagging her off.

I would be livid if someone did that to me or any of my friends or family. Total cowards who must be so insecure to try and get a few 'likes' at the expense of somebody else. Arseholes.

TyneTeas · 21/09/2014 21:55

There was an interesting article about this kind of thing in the Guardian a while ago

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/oct/04/photograph-strangers-train-tumblr

crazylady321 · 21/09/2014 21:59

Its discusting behaviour and very childish it would deffinately change my opinion of someone who did this. I have recently deleted a guy off fb for taking a pic of some random womans arse crack he was stood behind in a que, he had also annoyed me with certain statuses to the photo was the last straw, if he ever asks why hes been deleted I will tell him

lomega · 21/09/2014 22:06

No you are not BU - there are a few groups on Facebook that do this and ask for submissions from my local area of unsuspecting members of the public doing "embarrassing things." I actually 'liked' a couple of them/joined the groups to keep tabs and make sure me or my family/friends don't turn up in any of the pics :( I want to make sure any content with us in gets reported/deleted asap. I don't know if that's just making the page owners think they're popular though.

Hate these sorts of things.

LaurieFairyCake · 21/09/2014 22:09

Can't you photo shop the worst offender onto a pig and post it?

Or maybe a naked man with a really tiny todger?

I bloody would ..

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