To miss my old Saturday nights

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My gorgeous DD is 13 weeks old. DH is out on the town. I'm sooooo bored.

We where supposed to be going to a family friendly party but we both have colds so decided to stay in as its a two hour round trip and i was worried how we'd both cope being poorly.

I miss partying, drinking and no responsibilities.
All through my pregnancy and since she was born i haven't missed my old life. I really am tonight.

Anyone else or am I being selfish?

Of course! I miss my Saturdays full stop...lie ins, shopping, gym, night out!

My DS is 6 months and I miss my freedom. I miss being able to do what I like, when I like and I miss bring able to spend all day on the sofa in peace

Of course yanbu, my Dts are 4 and I still sometimes miss my old life. Especially if I watch Festivals on tv, you can still do nights out, it's just different.

I miss going out for one drink and having a unplanned mad night out followed by a lie in and a pub lunch.

I also miss quite weekends watching crap on tv, and lie ins, God I miss the lie ins.
Doesn't mean I would change anything for the world though, I just sometimes miss being young and carefree.

YANBU
However, I am a boring old git and I love not going out

Oh good, I'm glad. I'd sell my soul for a lie in at the moment.

I can't wait till christmas when I will have finished breast feeding and can have a drunken night out!

I know how you feel. My dc are 11 and 2.3 and somewhere between the two of them I managed a "second teenage" post divorce where I went out and had a bit of a wild old time whilst dd was tucked up being babysat by my mum....! And then I met now dh and had my second child and I've been a hermit ever since... (mum now unable to babysit and no other options) and god yes sometimes I do miss the partying and the nights out :(

I plan to have a brilliant mid life crisis when I'm 50 odd and the kids are grown up and spend my twilight years living it up in ibiza with calvin harris blasting out from some amazingly unsuitable car while I wear way too much lycra.

Should be fun

My aim is to have pretty much stopped breast feeding altogether by the start of the New Year - only then will I feel like I have some of my freedom back

Writer Yep. Freedom! I'm also looking forward to not smelling like milky sick.

Yep. But you do get used to it. Soon nights out like that just become a distant memory, like something that happened in another life.

I quite like the smell of breast milk sick . I like the smell of the milk on his breath too after he feeds

Lack of freedom and normal Saturday nights has clearly made me lose my mind

Is she still.cluster feeding in the evenings or do you get a bit of a break? We tend now to have people round in the evenings - takeaway, few drinks for those that want, xfactor on or a board game. Its really nice and we can all slob out

When they stop being so sicky and need less frequent feeds it does become much easier even if you feel that you'd like to carry on breast feeding by that point. It's hard to imagine at this point how much they change in that short time.

She doesn't cluster feed as much now. She is just a very sicky baby. The HV's aren't worried as she is piling on the weight.
I'm going out for tea then cinema with a mate on wednesday. I could weep with joy but I know I'll miss her and spend the evening talking or thinking about her.

Getting out will make such a difference - a reminder that you are still you :)

Kitten A few hours off. Exciting!

YANBU.

I probably only went out drinking and clubbing a handful of times in the year before I became pregnant, so not exactly a wild party person! But when I had DS, I did miss the freedom and simply, the opportunity to go out if I had wanted to. It was no longer a case of being able to go on an impromptu night out. They had to be planned with precision. What shift will DP be on? Okay, can't do that week then, how about on a Monday 6 months from now?

As DS became a little older and I felt comfortable for him to stay overnight with his GPs, nights out after the first year became easier and frequent (4 in a year! Woo!)

DS in now 3 and a half and nights out seem to be out my system. The last night out I had was NYE. I barely drank because I realised that clubs are shit. And despite only being 26, I felt old compared to lots of 18 yr olds. I hadn't heard of any of the music. And all I wanted was my bed. I realised then that I CBA with nights out now. I much prefer going out for dinner with a friend, or staying in with a takeaway. And my drink of choice these days is a cup of tea.

I sound really sad don't I?

No Betty you don't sound sad. Each to their own. I'm not that bothered about clubs but do love a good dance. Was still managing to boogie at a wedding 2 weeks before DD arrived. Love a nice meal out or a pub quiz. I love quizzes!

Think its only natural to miss things as they were. I was also a bit of a party animal and found it very hard to adjust, when I split with kids dad I went through a going out a lot phase again when he had the kids but I never enjoyed it like I did in my younger days. No im more than happy to stay in with a take away and early night

Tonight I did the ironing... Wild