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to be annoyed with Oxfam?

29 replies

WitchWay · 20/09/2014 15:01

DS16 is volunteering in a local Oxfam shop. One week, I sent along three old handbags in very good condition & a pair of sling-backs. The shoes were slung out as they were rather worn inside - fair enough.

A couple of weeks later I sent six Jilly Cooper books - the Riders series - which I felt were in good condition as I look after my books, never turn down the corners or leave them open & face down. One was a little more worn with a couple of loose pages (I had bought it second-hand).

Two were kept & the other four were slung out sent for recycling - essentially put into a skip full of other paper rubbish-, the reason being that the spines had vertical lines on them - these are big thick books that have each been read several times, admittedly some more than others.

No, they didn't look brand new, but they were certainly far from shabby, with neat corners & clean covers, and in any case the STORY was intact which is the whole point of an effing novel.

I can see that they might not want absolutely perfect "coffee table books" but these were fit to be read & enjoyed.

The whole thing has made me furious & DS feels bad because he felt what happened was beyond his control - not his fault at all though.

If I'd realised I'd've given them to a hospital department or something.

Poor old books Sad

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Vinomcstephens · 20/09/2014 15:04

YABU. I think you're really overreacting here - the books may not be being sold but they ARE being recycled and I think your poor son feels bad because you've made such a big deal out of it.

Honestly, this really isn't an issue!

bodhranbae · 20/09/2014 15:06

Furious? Don't be so pathetic.
Charities get PAID for recycled clothes and books FFS!

Have you any idea how many cruddy paperbacks people try to palm off on charity shops? In the course of a week they probably get hundreds of manky copies of Jilly fucking Cooper.

Oxfam do an amazing job with their bookshops - I always give my quality books to them because they manage to get a higher price for them than most other charities.

WitchWay · 20/09/2014 15:06

These weren't cruddy though - far from it

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HermioneWeasley · 20/09/2014 15:06

Sorry but you are over reacting. It's up to them what they do with them once donated and if they don't think they can sell them, they are not obliged to put them in store. I'm sure if they thought they could sell them, they would be them on the shelves

WitchWay · 20/09/2014 15:07

I would have bought them myself & I'm fussy Grin

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CatsCantTwerk · 20/09/2014 15:08

This is the second 'mad with the charity shop' thread I've read today Hmm

bodhranbae · 20/09/2014 15:09

Jilly Cooper + paperback = cruddy

MrsCumbersnatch · 20/09/2014 15:10

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MrsBoldon · 20/09/2014 15:10

This really isn't something to be 'furious' about. Save that emotion for things that actually matter.

WitchWay · 20/09/2014 15:14

I usually give to Age UK who are not snobby about scruffy books.

OK so they were crap JC novels, not to everyone's taste, no longer to my taste which was why they were going, it just seemed a shame to throw them away when they were in perfectly saleable condition.

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MomOfABeast · 20/09/2014 15:17

I guess they have limited space and if they have better quality stuff to sell then of course they're going to prioritize that. Ultimately the charity shops are there to make money for charity not to make us feel good about ourselves for donating.

WitchWay · 20/09/2014 15:18

I can see their point, but if I'd known I'd've donated them elsewhere.

DS said they have a rigid pricing structure for books so they all have to be of the same top quality - fair enough, I just wish I'd known beforehand.

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morethanpotatoprints · 20/09/2014 15:20

Our Oxfam got like this with clothes, would only take designer labels.
Then of course even at cheaper prices folks would rather buy new from the high street.
It has closed down now and all their books were practically given away, sold for 10p.

Justyouwaitandsee · 20/09/2014 15:54

I went into my local oxfam shop to make a donation. The volunteers barely acknowledged me and didn't bother to look up from their sorting. As I stepped through the doorway into the back room there was a large bin blocking me from going any further and they were in the process of sorting a large bag of jewellery - real beads were put to one side, long strands of plastic beads (perfect for dressing up) were being thrown away - and thrown away forcefully in my direction. After standing there for a few seconds without any greeting, I turned straight around, walked out and went to the local charity shop next door who accepted my donation with gratitude and later sent a lovely letter to say that they had raised £26 from that one donation.

LEMmingaround · 20/09/2014 16:00

YABU to say that you are fussy and proclaim that you would buy jilly cooper books. They are dated and quite frankly, shit. They wouldn't be able sell them regardless of position

LividofLondon · 20/09/2014 16:13

I feel your pain. The thought of books being thrown out makes me rather sad; as you say, someone would've enjoyed reading them. But I can see that they have to be really strict about what they accept because of limited space. Did they give your DS the chance to take them back with him or not? If they did then he could've brought them home with him so you had the option of donating them somewhere less fussy.

ElephantsNeverForgive · 20/09/2014 16:20

I have tons of soft toys and it makes me sad that they will probably go in a skip. Still they will be dropped off at the charity shop because I can't bring myself to bin them.

I gave a heap of DDs books to school, because I'm certain charity shops bin them.

ithoughtofitfirst · 20/09/2014 16:22

Love the use of "furious" Grin

UncleT · 20/09/2014 16:24

I'm more bothered by their relentless and oft offensive chugging.

MelanieCheeks · 20/09/2014 16:29

Waaaaay over-reaction. You gave them away. Totally up to the recipient what to do with them.

flagnogbagnog · 20/09/2014 16:34

Actually I have to say I agree with you. Having a personal contact with a local charity I can tell you that I'm pretty horrified by what gets chucked. I don't think people realise how picky some charity shops etc are. Now this is of course up to the charity shop however I do believe that they keep it very quiet so as not to discourage donations. And this is where my problem lies, generous people really have no idea that their donations are just chucked away, sold on to the rag man or worse still the staff have the pickings of the best stuff.

I have donated a lot of plus size clothing, in immaculate or new condition to the local food/clothing bank. It was all modern. Just didn't fit me. I was discreetly told after a few donations by a concerned party who worked there that anything over a size 16 gets sold to the rag man. I was upset because I do sell on eBay and really could have made a good amount of money. I just wanted someone else to get brand new clothes who was unable to because of personal hardship. I thought I was doing a good thing. I think the charity concerned would have got £3.50 for a bag of clothes worth a few hundred!

My point is, I feel they should put a poster up saying 'clothing over size 16 is no good to us, thank you anyway' at least I have choice then to donate elsewhere or sell on myself.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland · 20/09/2014 16:53

I've sorted donated books for Oxfam. Sometimes they just get so many copies of a book that they can't realistically sell them all and don't have the space to store them. At one time we were getting so many copies of The Ladies Detective Agency that there was no way we could do anything other than recycle them. Oxfam does get money for recycled paper and fabric so make money that way, too.

Yes, they are the high end of the charity shops but they often have people who are experts in pricing things correctly. I once gave them a very old plate of my aunt's, explaining that it might just be junk or possibly it might have some value. They sold it for £65.00 Smile

Badvoc123 · 20/09/2014 17:02

I recently gave 5 bin bags of really good quality/some never used children's toys, games and DVDs to our local children's hospital.
Mum gave 4 non bags if my late dad's clothes to the BHF and they sent her letter thanking her and telling her how much they got for them.
I avoid some charity shops as they do seem very,very picky.
Sometimes it is legislation that prevents them from taking donations, though. (They need modern fire regs and electrical testing for example)

Ericaequites · 20/09/2014 18:55

What's wrong with clothing for larger ladies? Everyone likes a bargain. Not working can lead. To weigh gain. When people start. Job hunting, they need career clothes.

FunkyBoldRibena · 20/09/2014 18:59

Jilly Cooper - they probably put them in the Jilly Cooper section of the skip.