to want one night out????

[Missymoo1987]

I had arranged to go round a friends house with a few of the mums from my DD's school. I have no other friends than these and my sisters.
DP has known this for a week. Sent him a reminder text to make sure he gets home on time tonight (he has been working late nights all week....unpaid).
I then get a phone call at half 5 (he's meant to finish at 5) to ask what time I am going out...I say about 7. His reply - well that's not gonna happen! We have a bit of a row and he puts the phone down on me and has refused to answer my calls or texts since.
He says he still has jobs to finish with his boss and will not be back for then and has no idea what time they will be finished or be back home (he has to catch a bus which will then take 45 mins to get him home).
Great.
I haven't been out for ages and this is the first time I have been able to make a "mums meet up".
He hadn't even bothered to tell his boss he had to leave on time today as I was going out and we have no other form of childcare. I know his boss would of been fine with it as he is a family man himself and is lovely.
AIBU to think he is being very selfish and thoughtless and to be quite upset at his attitude?

You are not being unreasonable.

You've given him plenty of notice. He's jealous and he's done this on purpose.

I bet there is a babysitter out there who likes dogs. Put a note up at the vet's. Yadnbu.

What a wanker !

He is a dick.
Tomorrow (assuming he doesn't work) you go shopping, swimming, for a walk. It doesn't matter what.

You go and you let him cope with DD.

If he doesn't get the message. I'd serious consider giving him the boot. Sorry

Definitely go tonight though regardless just to make the point!

Gosh op. Your husband sounds awful. My dh would revel in finding me and my mates drinking when he got in, he'd be delighted in fact.

I dont like dogs but id put up with them for one night just to fuck your dh off tbh. Just to show him.

I presume that this is the idiot who spent a fortune on games for his phone/ipad etc.What a pig.How dare he try to prevent you from making friends

Is he back yet op?

I hope the OP has managed to get out. Sounds like she could do with it.

OP did you manage to get out last night?

The dogs are not a problem. My teenage daughter and her friends love babysitting and most have dogs. You may find that after the children get to sleep the dog gets brushed! I used to babysit as a teenager and I preferred dogs being around, I always felt more at home and it was a friendly face in an unfamiliar house.

What time did he get back?

Honestly, he sounds awful. What he did was very controlling and deliberately done to ruin your fun. Plus you say he wouldn't be shy about making his feelings known if he came back to find you with guests. What is good about this guy?

How you doing today?

OP, I work in the domestic abuse areana and making it known to you and your friends that he doesn't want them over at your house is a massive massive red flag. As is embarrassing you in front of them.

Being held up at work when you are due for a night out is also a classic tactic. You can PM me for a chat if you want. X

What would happen here is dh would come home anyway and then finish off his work on home computer in the evening. Again unpaid but he's on a reasonable salary.

I do know how frustrating it is to miss the few social things you have as dh works abroad fairly often and then I am totally stuck in.

Are you ok today, did you get to talk to him?