Has anyone else experienced constants self - criticism whilst parenting. I am a good mum; I am regularly told as much. However, I found myself constantly questioning my choices , feeling people are judging me, criticising me as a mother, I just feel like for some parenting is so naturual... Yet for me for me it requires massive effort in so many ways, as I constantly doubt how well I am doing. My dd is 16 months and is rather a handful- though bright, funny and very advanced with her speech. There are days I am obviously not fretting or feeling inedequate, but generally I just feel like everyone else is doing a better job than me ... Or Infact, it's more I feel everyone has it Sussed. They just seem to be so much more confident about their parenting. I don't always agree with how fiends parents, but I admire how confident they are about what they do- and I yearn for their lack of self consciousness. Over all I love being a mother, my daughter has literally MADE my life, but sometimes I do feel so overwhelmed with inedequacy... And I really don't even know exactly what for. I'm ultimately very patient with her, I play with her, show her tonnes of my love... Basically do everything you would do as a good mother! Please say i am not the only one to feel like this? And more over, how can I gain some assurance I am a good mother! The best mother for my girl? (I also have another on the way , so will have two under two come Jan! I really want to try and gain some perspective by then !)