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AIBU and naive to think NOT all teenage boys use their smartphone look at porn

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bellarations · 19/09/2014 14:42

As above.
It would probably be bad form to mention names, but in another thread someone commented that smartphones are used by most teenage boys to look at porn.
Do I need to check ds (14) iphone tonight or is this comment an exaggeration?
What are your experiences ? Should I be worried?

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Babycham1979 · 19/09/2014 16:33

I'm sorry, but there's nothing new under the sun. I'm 35 and girls and boys at my school were looking at porn magazines and pirated vides from about 13 onwards. There were even ropery old 'Faces of Death' videos doing the rounds (grusome deaths, executions etc).

New technology might make it slightly eaasier for them to access things you don't want them to, but trust me, those things were always out there.

My grandfather even told me stories of dirty photographs being passed around his friends at school!

Bambambini · 19/09/2014 16:42

It's not the same. I'm older than you and it's a whole different ball game these days with the Internet and kids having smartphones.

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 19/09/2014 16:43

Kids are getting these smartphones with free access younger and younger. Imagine them seeing the stuff that Agatha posted above. It would totally fuck up their perception of women, relationships, sex, the fucking lot.
When is the government going to just do the opt-in thing?
Sadly lots of parents don't give a shit what their kids are doing, don't explain porn and how it's not real, don't put restrictions, so children as young as 11/12 are seeing these exteme videos which probably traumatises them.

AgaPanthers · 19/09/2014 16:58

Sorry it's COMPLETELY different now. A few porn magazines showing a woman spreading her genitals from the 80s, does not compare with unlimited porn on tap of any possible subject imaginable.

HereBeHubbubs · 19/09/2014 17:23

Ahem.

Don't buy/give your 7 year old child a Smartphone then.

Peer pressure isn't going to traumatise them for life for not having a phone. Parents are mugs for giving in to it. 'But I need my child to phone me when they're ready to be collected from their club/school/party/potential attack down a random alleyway'.

No you don't. You just make sure you are there at the agreed time. If he's late because you couldn't phone him, he learns that next time he'll have to make his own way home, or if that's not possible, doesn't get to go in the first place.

I'm astounded at the extent to which people are now programmed into thinking mobile phones are a vital accessory. They're really not. Other generations survived perfectly well without them as children.

AgaPanthers · 19/09/2014 17:27

You can buy a phone for £5 with no internet. It's not either/or

AgaPanthers · 19/09/2014 17:29

£10 one here - www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2821452.htm

no internet, no camera, no bluetooth, no porn

AgaPanthers · 19/09/2014 17:31

Also that's a much better phone than a smartphone for all these people whose children will be kidnapped by space aliens if they can't phone home at any timeas it the battery will last over a month on standby, whereas a smartphone can easily be flat in a day.

PastorOfMuppets · 19/09/2014 17:42

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BoneyBackJefferson · 19/09/2014 17:43

Its not just boys looking at porn, sexting and sending pictures of their genitals (and shock horror not all girls are forced in to doing this)

Waits for flaming

Tapewormuprising · 19/09/2014 17:43

I agree boney!

bellarations · 19/09/2014 19:06

Thanks for your replies.
I have checked his phone and seen nothing to be concerned about. Very relieved about that given he is only 14.
I deleted the utube app but it seems he goes to google and gets it that way.
We had chat about internet content and being safe, sensible, legalities etc. and whilst some people think pornigraphy is ok, I do not and gave my reasons.
I told him I was proud I can trust him.

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bellarations · 19/09/2014 19:09

Boney I also agree.
I've heard some pretty nasty things about seeming nice girls sending and collecting "dickpix" makes me cringe.
It's difficult because i don't want him to think I don't trust him but at the same time I need to guide him towards healthy morals.

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