I know I should probably post in relationships, but I want some honest, brutal answers 
I will try and keep this as short as I can!
Main thing is the moods and sulking. He is very confident and happy around other people, at work etc, everyone thinks he is the life and soul of the party. But he uses all his energy and enthusiasm and we get the tired, impatient, snappy person.
He sulks very easily, and if he has a problem with something he sulks, and is moody and denies anything is wrong (I say to him if you don't discuss and communicate we can't move forward). I am willing to compromise on things, but I can't if I don't know what the issue is!
He also has a great social life, and is a member of a particular men's club, which I really don't like the principle of, but wouldn't stop him going. He never discusses going out, joining things etc, and I don't want him to ask permission (I have told him I would never stop him doing anything) I would just like a discussion.
He doesn't do things he isn't interested in, ie me and the kids have a hobby we enjoy, and it's something you can do everywhere, and is something you could do if say you were visiting a town, doing a forest walk, lots of different places, doesn't take long. He stands there huffing and puffing and looking bored, yet in museums etc he likes to read everything (fair enough) and I entertain the kids so he can.
It's so hard because everyone sees this happy, outgoing person, and it's hard to explain the other side of him.
This is just the tip of the iceberg, but my main annoyances. I try to talk to him but it's very difficult as things are very black and white for him, and if my opinion is different he struggles to understand.
I know I am far from perfect, and I am having some counselling to work on my confidence and self esteem, but I feel so bogged down and unappreciated, and it's exhausting.
So if you haven't fallen asleep feel free to hand me a grip!