To think she is not being truthful and is up to something?

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So, we have a cleaner come in once a week and she does a good job. Quite expensive though so as dsis was saving up I asked her if she would like to do some cleaning/tidying for us during the week to help us keep on top of things.

She has been popping in and doing some a couple of times a week BUT I notice things like on a couple of occasions she hadn't hoovered or wiped any surfaces yet said she had been there for three hours. Similar things have happened and when she's been it doesn't look like much has been done at all.
Yesterday she was meant to go but couldn't and said she would today. We have all been ill and I text her to check if she was coming and she wouldn't say yes or no just wanted to know would I be in or not, when I said yes she said she couldn't actually come but would tomorrow at a time she knows I'm out.

I feel a bit suspicious now as she is actively avoiding coming round when I'm there! She cleaned before the holidays but was then 'ill' all summer so didn't come then either.

I'm wondering if she is avoiding me so that she can say she has done more hours than she really has ? I don't want to confront her in case I'm wrong but I feel really suspicious. I can't work out if I'm being paranoid or if she is up to something.

Why are you even spending any time with someone you don't dare annoy? Isn't thee enough stress in life without keeping people like that in your life? In your case allowing her in more by offering something like this in the first place?

Let it fizzle out if she's a cow bag when you deny her something, but can't you just avoid her as much as possible if she's this way?

Take the fuses out of the plugs for the modem and tv.

You are a mug if you pay her another penny.

Text her and say you don't want to use her as a cleaner anymore.

Don't give in to bullies. Your sister is a bully.

I feel sorry for your proper cleaner if you have dropped her with no notice.

Is she any good at cleaning?
My cleaner isn't. Im avoiding the problem plucking up the courage to sack talk to her.
I know she is in the house and "cleaning" because i am often there. She just doesn't seem to be able to do more than a certain amount. I halved her work yesterday, just one floor of the house, and even with the same time it looked no better; dust in obvious places etc. your sister might be taking the piss. Or she might just be like my cleaner.

OP, I don't know what the background is with yourself and your sister. But if you would rather pussyfoot around her and pay her for a service that she isn't fulfilling so as not to upset her ,then you clearly have bigger fish to fry.

I just don't understand why you suggested it in the first place.

She sounds like she is taking the piss. I would have to pretend I was out and wait quietly upstairs to see what she actually does do and then make my surprise appearance.

I needed the help and she was cheaper than a 'real' cleaner. That was the only reason. I thought she would at least be able to do a few simple cleaning jobs but obviously not !

It just made me wonder today when she was insistent on only cleaning with me not there as to what's going on. Its difficult as we are so busy and need quite a bit of help.

You need to accept she's a pisstaker OP and won't change even if it's a mutual favor.

Are the bed sheets rumpled when she leaves?

It's quite possible that she doesn't want to clean when you're there as she doesn't want her sister to see her as 'the cleaner', however it doesn't sound like even when she is there that she's doing very much. Never work with family ....

Does your sister work? AM I right in thinking she can't work because of her seizures? Or are they under control now?

She is taking the piss out you - like she always does. You deserve to get what you are paying for! Plenty of cleaners out there looking for work and who will work hard for it!

Isn't it said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again whilst expecting a different result.

Are you ever going to wise up to the idea that your family are who they are rather than who you want/hope them to be OP?

Or will you continue causing yourself grief by trying to force a square peg into a round hole?