upset seeing mum and toddler group at library

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Went to the library today to collect a book and there was a mums and toddler session going on, all were singing 'the wheels on the bus...'. Haven't sang that in ages, I have 3 dcs, youngest is 10 and I got so sentimental I nearly started crying. I was really choked up and had to leave pretty quickly. I'm a SAHM(looking for work!) and tbh the best years of my life were when my kids were little, I had the best social life then and although I was knackered, I had so many friends and such an active life. I was really sad and a teeny bit jealous of all those mums....aibu?

YANBU and sorry you feel so sad. Perhaps the next few years could include a bit of you time so you can reconnect with old friends or find new interests.Might it be possible to find a job connected to childcare? Life hurtles by at such a speed that before you know it you will be singing wheels on the bus to your grandchildren.

You sound like you could be a childminder!!

Jammy, have you room for more?

Fostering 0-3s for 2 years was one of the happiest times of my life. Then I fell completely in love and expanded my family permanently.

Hazard of the job .

Oh my god nearly crying at the thought of how amazing/emotional/lovely/hard fostering 0-3s must be

So lovely to read all your comments and good to know it's not just me! When I say they were the best years, I don't mean that it's all downhill now. My life is still centred round the kids, I love spending time with them and try to be very much in the 'now' but the toddler and baby years took me by surprise and I loved the experience, exhausting but wonderful
Fostering? Hmmm....I have thought about that, not now as we have no room but who knows in the future

I would love to foster babies but we don't have the room, and OH wouldn't do it.

0-3s were amazingly and fantastically easy on a day to day basis because we loved the bones of them all and were supported so well by SS.
We were knackered though... 1 and a half hour feeds for 2 prem babies at once... and DH had a full time job.

One of those little chaps is now a hulking, rugby playing 14 yr old who is the light of our lives... along with his giggly, Roald Dahl loving, mermaid of a sister .

Aw I'm the same :) my son is twelve now and I loved toddler groups. Socially, they were like a lifeline for me and I was very upset when they ended!

I did find that stage difficult though.

Wipes tear from brutal bristly cheek

She's 18 now. I can remember when all of her fitted onto my forearm

Wanders off emitting honking noise

You can volunteer to do the rhyme time groups at the library its only 1/2hr session. All you need is a cheery singing voice not a monotone one like our old one did. Go ask library about it