to be annoyed by this or should I just leave it?

[MrsEames]

Basically, I looked on FB and saw my sister (A) was having a party (she doesn't have kids) and my sister (B) who has 3 kids said 'wheres my invite?'

So (A) says, get a babysitter and come.

20 mins later, I get a txt from (B) saying 'hiya (A) is having a party, can you have 2 of my kids overnight' (they are 2 and a 4 month old baby)

So I'm annoyed because I get no invite to the party! And get asked to have the kids too (I have 4 kids of my own!)

And to put this into perspective it was (B)'s birthday a few months ago and this basically happened: she said 'im having a party i need to ask if you wanna come, only i wanted you to have my kids over night for me, but mum said i should invite you first' !!

So yet again she was going to just ask me to babysit rather than invite me but mum told her to ask me!

AIBU to feel like a left out doormat?

BTW I said no this time!

Good for you, I would have said no too! I would be really annoyed at this and because I'm pig headed I probably wouldn't babysit for a while.

Are they closer than you are to either of them? It is quite bad taste to exclude you and cheeky to then ask you to do childcarebut if you dont have a clpse friendship and your other two sisters do then they shouldnt have to ask you.

id still say no to childcare though!

I would be very annoyed

TBF, this would upset me too. I'd feel used and excluded. Are you usually close?

My DB does things like this, I've actually resorted to hiding his posts on FB. What I can't see can't upset me!

YANBU, that must really hurt actually. Say no to the childcare, you're their sister not their babysitter. And they are very bloody rude to arrange this stuff on fb where you can see it but not to invite you.

I don't think A is rude. She wasn't going to invite either sister, which is fair enough. B has some brass neck, though.

B is clearly a puss taker! Saying no to all childcare requests for the foreseeable is definitely the way forward, at least 12 months of "no" might help get the message across.

Piss taker, not a puss taker, obviously!

Yeah B is a bit of a piss take. A wasn't going to invite either so is in the clear but with 4 kids of your own I'd say she has to be very bloody close with you to ask you to take on 2 more children (especially a 4 month old) while she attends a party at A's that you haven't been invited to.

B didn't get an invite either until she asked. Why didn't you also say "where's my invite?" and then both you and B get your partners to look after the kids or ask your mum to babysit?

That's what I'd have done with my own sister anyway.