I have posted before about this situation but have since name changed. This post could be lengthy but I will try to keep it as short and sweet as I can.
In a nutshell my mum and dad divorced 7 years ago (when I was 14 and other DB was 12) since then my dad has been a complete and utter depressive wreck.
He wished my mum dead and became very threatening with regards to his behaviour. He left his very well paid job in an attempt to go self employed with the divorce settlement (which was nearly £160000) which completely failed. He got a mortgage on a house in a very rough area and met his 'lovely' DP.
She was lovely at first and had a son who was about 22 at the time. I've never been a daddy's girl so there was no jealousy on my part anyway involved. I was pleased that he had found someone he seemed to be happy with. Unfortunately, it didn't last long.
She became pregnant with my DB and all of a sudden visits to see dad went from every other week to once a month and then nothing with a noticeably more hostile atmosphere every time we went to see him from both my dad and his DP.
One day he was driving us back home when he explained to us that he would have to meet us at our nans house as his DP didn't want us at his house and she didn't want to play mother to 'your two kids.' My DB was more accepting I kicked off and told her what I thought which lead to my grandparents, dad, cousins, aunties and uncles excommunicating me from the family. I didn't meet my DB until he was 2.
I was back on speaking terms with them until this last couple of months. It started when I learned that my da hadnt been 'laid off' from his job as he had stated he had actually left because his DP was ringing his at work saying that she couldn't cope with DB and the dogs on her own ( they breed dogs after moving to a small holding which they rent for £800 pcm they also have a horse, chickens and various other animals). His boss told him to take 2 weeks leave and decide after how many hours he wanted to do. My dad never got back in touch.
My brother went up to their house a couple of weeks ago to introduce his new GF to them. Now, my brother still lives at home with my mum and step dad and he's having a rough time with them for various reasons. Dad offered DB a room at their house as he said that he would appreciate the board and lodge of £250 PCM that he pays my mum and step dad. Dads DP wasnt happy about this in the slightest.
So, when DB had taken his new GF up to the house he asked dad and his DP if they thought they were a good couple. Dads DP butted in 'If I'm honest I thinks she's way out of your league and too good for you. I've got a son whose 26, he's good looking and plays the guitar he'd be perfect for you.' She was trying to take pictures of DBs GF to send to her son!! My DB had to put his ham over his GFs face to stop her. He then left and asked her to think about what she'd said. I think it was all part of her plan because she didn't want DB living there. My dad then rang DB up asking him to apologise to his DP!!!
She has never worked a day in her life. She sits in her PJs all day in her laptop whilst my little brother is sat watching telly all day every fucking day! He was meant to go to school at the beginning of this month but he hasn't because they are on a fiddle with dads house (he is 'renting' it out to her so they are getting £550 a month housing benefit) dads other house is 40 miles away so she can't send him to school over here unless they change address but that means that they don't have the money coming in. Dad isn't evn on his birth certificate! DB has his mums surname and not my dads!!
It was my DDs first birthday last month and they were invited. My mum knew that dad wouldn't go if she was there so she very selflessly told me that she wouldn't go to the party as she wanted to give my dad the opportunit to be there. He didn't even bother turning up! Said that his DP didn't want to go! They live 3 miles away and my DP saw them drive past our house in their car whilst the party was on!!
Their neighbour (who just happens to be my SIL) takes their bins down for them and said tht there were 10 empty bottles of gin in their bin!!
He rang me up asking me for money, he came round to our house sobbing because he can't stand his DP or his son and he hates them both. He said that she told him that she was sick of having no money and that he wa making her unhappy and depressed. He said that she is spending money like water and they are £40000 in debt but its all in his name! He also told me tht they don't have sex because he doesn't fancy her!!!
I flipped out at her an told her what I thought - she doesn't love my dad she jut uses him for the income and the fact that she can sit on her arse whilst he sorts the dogs, horses etc.
my dad rang me up after I'd tore strips off his DP and told me to have a bit of respect and that I'm getting ideas 'above my station'. I know it was childish but he kept ringing my landline and I kept answering it telling him I was busy, my DD was screaming in her buggy an in the en I picke up the phone an screamed t him to fuck off. I ha just had enough, I'm so worn down by all of the drama and the fact tht some members o my family still won't talk to me even though I've done nothing wrong.
My DB has never had any interaction with children his own age. He sits in front of the TV like a zombie!!! His speech is slow and he is difficult to handle at the best of times
I don't know what to do - worrie for my brother