To not want SIL to take so much pictures of my two DSs

[Pumpkaboo]

Ok I'm willing to be told I'm BU. My dh and I have two boys, 3 and 5. My dhs younger sister (who is lovely) is very close to them and comes over to ours maybe a few times a month to see them and sometimes to babysit for us.

I get on really well with SIL, I have no complaints about her other wise, but every time she comes to ours she takes out her phone and snaps loads of pictures of my DSs. Every single time.

It is starting to annoy me a bit tbh. I know she isn't going to do anything sinister with them, I'm not suggesting that. She also doesn't have twitter/fb or anything so she's not going to display them there. I actually don't know what she does with them, puts them on her laptop I guess.

But she just takes so many of them. I find it a bit strange. Dh doesn't think anything of it and just says it's because she's so close to them and loves them, which I don't doubt, but she just takes her phone out and snaps and snaps and snaps like there's no tomorrow. It's not as if she never sees them

Wibu to tel her to stop taking so much? Or at least ask her what the heck she does with them all?

I am a keen photographer,I take loads of pictures of everything.

I'd probably find it mildly annoying too, OP, or at least puzzling, as someone who doesn't even have a single photo of her wedding! But the phone camera has changed the way people think about photographs - people are much more likely to take lots of photos and delete the bad ones, rather than a lot of tiresome, lengthy posing, looking for the best shot etc. And far less likely to do anything with the photos - they may well just be on her phone, not even uploaded on a laptop. I think the younger generation who grew up with phone cameras are likely to 'document' things like that, and not to think other people might find it odd.

It would be a lot worse if she was like my parents, who are old school, and like to line people up to pose stiffly in front of Christmas trees and the like, and take ages to take four or five identical photos. And then complain when our two year old runs out of the room. Or my MIL, who has a bizarre predilection for taking very bad, blurry close-ups of people eating...

YABU and a little odd about it

I take loads of photos of my niece and nephew and my sister takes lots of photos of my son too!!!

It's because we just love them to pieces

YABU if you know there is nothing sinister going on.
Plus they are her family too.

I could be that auntie - and if I'm honest, with what you've said, I'd be really sad if this was what by sis / sil thought of me.
She loves spending time with your kids, including babysitting which presumably lets you go out child-free, when she could be doing a million other things. She takes photos of HER nephews doing stupid, daft stuff like singing or playing with their trains, that you acknowledge she'll not do anything stupid with. Like most of us, she's probably not a David Bailey standard photographer, so although she takes "loads" of photos, she's probably got one in focus where everyone's looking at the camera.

When I read on here the amount of folk that have genuine problems with family, who are no contact for serious reasons ..... Those folk would probably kill for their only problem to be a snap-happy aunt.

So much as I love to sit on the fence for many of these, actually YABU.

I've not got much to add to previous posts, except to say, please OP, don't ask your SIL to stop taking so many photos. That would be so hurtful and from what you've said yourself, she's doing no harm to anyone and doesn't deserve to be hurt. I am at a loss to understand what your objection is and I'm sure she would be too.

You're going to feel like the worlds biggest bitch when she gives you a lovely photo album of your DC for Xmas.

I take quite a few pics of my nephew - so when I'm missing him I can look at them. Nothing sinister there

Yabu! Especially as she doesn't have Facebook/twitter.

My sister takes loads of photos in fact the whole family does and it's lovely to share them with each other. I hope my SIL doesn't think of me like this.

I think your SIL sounds lovely. she clearly loves your DC very much. I see no harm in her wanting to have photos of them. She may well be plotting a very nice Christmas gift for your family, or be making memory boxes for your children for when they are older.
If she was up loading them to FB / Twitter constantly against your wishes I could understand your annoyance, but she isn't.
For what its worth I was very grateful for my sisters love of photo taking last week, I forgot my camera at my DDs birthday party. I very nearly missed getting a photo of my DDs big day.
Thanks to my sister I will always have those pictures to treasure.
Maybe you could see it as a bonus that your SIL is working as a your own photographer for free .