To think nappies should be given out on the NHS for bedwetting

[Nymeria01]

DS1 is 14 and still wets his bed. We have had a great deal of support from the NHS (alarms, clinic and medication) all of which I am great full for. However the fact is that none of them work and he still has to wear drynites otherwise his sleeping is messed up. I have talked about this on MN before and have had some great responses informing me that you can get nappies on prescription at his age. I raised this with the GP and he said its not possible.

YABU there are many adults and children who have total incontinence and are unable to get the provision they need and are rationed to x amount of covers per day. What do you mean it messes his sleep up? If he's waking to go to the loo is that not a positive thing? It might be more frequent at the moment due to anxiety but may lessen as he becomes more confident? What about a bottle, by which I mean this as a solution

I'm sorry you've suffered with incontinence. Still doesn't give you the right to call me names or swear at me just because my opinion differs from yours. Nor do you get to dictate who posts and who pisses off or issue me with 'instructions'

Flossy no one is saying you should be denied things that will help you improve your standard of living but I think Bob's point is that there is medicine etc which is being denied to cancer sufferers for example on the nhs due to cost which sufferers can't just walk into tesco to purchase.

It wasn't an opinion Bob was it. It was a put down.

Saying Really? was sarcasm. To follow that with people are being denied life saving drugs was being dismissive.
Had you said OP YABU, the NHS budget is already overstretched and you have already been provided with equipment to support your son to manage his night time incontinence That is an opinion.

I think you telling Bob to piss off kind of trumps anything she/he said and is 100 x worse imo.

Fine.

Yes because telling somebody to piss off is 100x worse than making somebody feel like crap and a drain on NHS resources by denying people life saving drugs all because you cannot control you bladder. Yeah I can see how piss off is worse than that

Flossy, I'm really sorry that you have these issues, I feel for you I really do, but it has obviously made you over sensitive on the subject because I really don't think Bobs comments were intended to insult or upset you, you are reading a lot more into it than there is. Your reaction was really disproportionate. Sorry.

Very poor form to tell someone to piss off because you don't like what they say.

And yes I agree that life saving cancer drugs should take priority over incontinence pads in the nhs budget, because when push comes to shove you can obtain the pads yourself.

I suppose unless you have lived with it you will never understand. People see it as a simple thing/minor problem and don't grasp what it is like to live with the condition & the stigma.

Maybe it would be easier for people like me if others were not so dismissive and accuse you of taking funding for life saving drugs because you ask for financial assistance to manage a perceived minor medical problem.

If they were not intended to insult or upset what was the intention of Bobs comment then?

FGS, it's not all about YOU.

It's an opinion, Floss. Bob expressed an opinion. You find it an insult and upsetting. That is your lookout.

The op was asking aibu. Bob was answering. That's how this board works

Look you are correct this is not about me. So I will leave the board in peace.

Emin Bob was not answering. This was Bobs first post after the OP

Really? When people are being denied life saving drugs because of cost?

It's not like the OP was asking for a boob job

Ok so bob could have phrased it more diplomatically but the sentiment was "yes YABU"

It is right to leave it there. I feel we have hijacked the poor op's thread somewhat.

I used to work for a company who fulfilled inco pad prescriptions on the nhs. Unfortunately it is up to your local health authority whether or not to make these products available on prescription, or to set limits on who is eligible to receive them.

Up until about 2 Years ago, many health authorities were quite generous with their prescriptions for inco pads but all of a sudden there was a change and they started to be really strict about wo they would prescribe to and how many pads etc. I doing know what caused this change all of a sudden, there must have been some sort if massive budget cut. Suddenly there were strict limits on what products were allowed to be prescribed and how many, which didn't seem to take into consideration the needs if patients.

It's actually really shocking, so many people have been left with inadequate protection and can't afford to buy their own. :-(. It must have had a devastating effect on so many people's lives.

On the other hand, it might be that these products are available for young people in your area and you just have an uninformed go. It's usually the incontinence nurse, district nurse or school nurse who is in charge of prescribing these.

Uninformed gp, I mean.

Oh, I meant to say yanbu at all.

I'm not sure why the argument is coming down to continence pads or life saving drugs - both of these should be available on the NHS. It always come down to the dichotomies - dying to not essential. Perhaps we ought to focus on people who cost thousands in missed appointments, those have to be seen in A&E at the weekend because they are drunk, people going to the GP with a cold, not being discharged from a ward on Sunday because there are no consultants in. This is wastage - not a poor 14 year old boy being able to keep his dignity. I think some of you need a prescription for some compassion.

The NHS does enough as it is. As soon as life gets hard it seems that someone else has to pay for it/take responsibility. We don't know how lucky we are to have the NHS. In this instance you should be buying them yourself.

And yes, I do know what it is like to have a 14 year old who wets the bed.

OP, i do understand your situation but I think YABU. And I say this as someone who wet the bed until I was 12 and have a dd who wet the bed until she was 7.

Agree with icanmakeyouicecream.

It astounds me that so many people seem to think that every single ailment or medical disfunction should be funded by the nhs.

If that were the case then why do the chemists sell stuff over the counter? Don't need a prescription for painkillers, pile cream etc. By your reasoning that should all be nhs funded?
Where does it stop? Nappies for newborns? Sanitary protection?