I got told in no uncertain terms today by the ex that he 'doesn't appreciate speaking to anyone other than you (me) about dc and DH has no place speaking to him'
Short story: ex is a controlling bullying bastard. He has, when I was a single parent, unashamedly threatened me in front of DC in public places and likes to gaslight me about contact. Due to this behaviour DH is always around when plans are made, phone calls are had on speaker phone so there is a witness etc
Now DH had cause to speak to the ex this week when he phoned as I was working late and updated about the new teacher, homework due etc general chit chat and nothing more was said until today by the ex.
DH wants to ring his neck him and talk it out, which is sensible but I know ultimately pointless as ex won't listen, but worth a shot for sanity sake
Now I'm pretty sure ex won't speak to DH because DH isn't afraid of him and happily stands up and calls him out on his lies whereas I just keep the peace for DC sake really and nod smile and curse him behind his back!
But AIBU to think my DH, DC's step-dad who has been in their life for more than they haven't been there, is entitled to have a say in their upbringing and be able to update people who ask about them? Where do we go from here? Ex is blatantly a dick!