Baby clothes

[Shiraznowplease]

Just had a disagreement with my mum as my sil is having a baby at about the same time as DH cousin. Sil is well off whereas my DH cousin is on a very low income, my sil doesn't know (or isn't saying) sex of baby so I intended to give all my baby clothes to DH cousin. My mum has bought quite a lot of dd and ds clothes as gifts and thinks they should be given to sil for first refusal.
I am not close to sil or db but have no bad feeling towards them just feel the clothes and high chair etc would be better going to someone who really needs them. Aibu or is my mum ?

Your mum is unreasonable. Presumably she gave the clothes as gifts so they are yours to pass on to whomever you choose.

I think, considering the clothes were given to you as a gift, you are the one who decides what to do with them.
If you feel your DH cousin will get the best use out of them then that is your decision to make.

Up to you, maybe play lip service with a few items to SIL?

Actually throwing this out there, we were so bombarded with hand me downs (which was lovely and I am grateful) but TBH it was a pain in the butt organising that many clothes. When handing them on, I made up several bags for friends, giving them one decent sized bag each (quite a few babies after mine) in an effort to not 'overwhelm' them and so they actually get the novelty of buying an outfit or two themselves. Think my DD1 has only recently had anything new!

I think it's a bit odd that this is your brothers child who is being born and you keep saying SIL instead of DB! "SIL is well off...." So is it her responsibility to clothe this child and not your BROTHERS?

Does your SIL actually definitely want your hand-me-downs?

If she's well off she might well want to buy her own baby clothes.

My db is quite placid and happy either way, my sil is more 'difficult'. I know they had hoped for all my baby things as are v frugal. I have sorted them into up to one month, 0-3 etc.
I had intended to buy my niece/nephew a toy box and fill with new baby clothes as my gift when it was born.
My DH cousin is in a temp job and not sure if his dp works so they will struggle to buy rather than prefer not to if you see what I mean

They are not your mum's to give.