To feel so angry about DS's hungover dad?

[Titsyandmitzy]

DH left me and my DS who is nearly 3 a couple of months ago due to him suffering depression and no longer feeling like he loves me. He's receiving treatment for the depression and I'm trying to be as supportive as possible but this has really wound me up - he turns up this morning looking rough as anything, feeling hungover and stinking of booze. He knew he was having DS today so in my mind you just don't do that?! Especially as he's going on a weekend bender with his mates next weekend. So DS is going to have a grumpy dad for the day - fun, not!

His view on going out - he's forcing himself to socialise to help with the depression. So AIBU and should I just let it go? I'm probably overreacting a little bit as I'm already struggling because DS just doesn't seem to like me very much at the moment and is really playing me up. It's all about hero daddy which really hurts.

Is he safe to drive?

I'd agree it's wrong but plenty of parents drink whilst children are in the house or go out and have to parent the next day so it's acceptable to many.

He walked round so won't be driving so at least that's something. I was all for us having nights out drinking with our mates when we were together - at least then there was at least one parent the next day in a fit state to have a nice day with DS. What gets me is the fact the knew he'd be in sole charge of DS today and that he'd be feeling rough, really grumpy and DS would have to put up with it. Why ruin the day you have together? Especially if you know you're going to be having a whole weekend of drinking the next weekend?

Alcohol is a depressant, he is aware of this right? Getting out (good), socialising (good), this sounds like he's not managing his own care well tbh.
He does sound like he's being quite self destructive / not giving a fun day a chance. But maybe he recovers well?

He's self medicating because his life is so shit and he cant cope

Alcohol and depression are a pretty dangerous mix. I would have a gentle word with him I think.

Forcing socialising is good, a couple of drinks is fine, getting completely drunk isn't a good thing. It won't help the depression, he'll feel real shit after like today and as people say alcohol is a depressant so too many shouldn't be had.

YANBU to be upset, especially with DS is thinking his daddy is all great which he certainly won't be doing much longer if dad is grumpy every weekend. A one off (if this is one) is fine but if it becomes regular- bad.

Supportive is good OP, but not to your detriment. Are you speaking to someone? You don't want to be too supportive.

My ExDH used to do this.

The 3rd time he did it, I refused to let DS go with him. He now doesn't get hammered the night before he picks DS up.