About who gets a lie in

[Mmmicecream]

I thought I'd test this here before picking a fight with DH about it

Both DH and I are tired. The DCs are poor sleepers (each is up at least once a night), and we both work the same amount. We get up at different times with them, but probably end up, on average, being up the same amount with them. We have a deal whereby we get a lie-in each a weekend: he tends to doze during his, whereas I sleep like a log.

BUT whereas I try to go to bed early most nights, he stays up late playing computer games so is often in bed at least an hour later than me, maybe more. And, our lie in arrangement is premised on the idea that we are both the same amount of tired.

AIBU to think that if he chooses to stay up late and that's contributing to his tiredness he doesn't deserve a lie in and should give his to me? I'm getting a bit grumpy about it, but am not sure if it's just the tiredness talking.

Or is the sleep deprivation addling my brain and not only am IBU but need more ?

Oh, fromparis, that's awful. By choice or by necessity? I never got a lie in when I was a SAHM, but I totally understood because DH was shattered after a week of waking up at 5:30 and commuting. Still, it was hard.

YABU, but YABVR about it.

I'm having a nice late night episode right now. House is silent. Every one else is in bed. I have a beer and dr who on iplayer. Bliss. This is my one moment of sanity in the week.

My H get up at 6 every day and I always get both lie ins :) unhelpful

Mrs pig

Sorry iPhone. As dp is entitled and 'more tired' . I sometimes take sick days then and only then do I get a lie in. Or I have siesta .

When my DH was complaining of tiredness despite going to bed late and not getting up in hath night with huge baby I did point out he was being selfish and getting an early night was in the best interests of the family.

He did start going to bed at a reasonable hour rather than just complaining and doing nothing about it.

I do feel he is still entitled to a lie in, but and other grumbles about being tired should be given short shrift.

Ps if you want a longer lie in but don't need it, you could always take yourself out and have a lovely coffee with a paper somewhere.

Huge baby = the baby (although she was over 9lb)

DP is always more tired than I am...even if he's had a week off work (I work 3 days) and a lie in every morning

Yabu. The staying up late by your dh isnt important. At weekend you have two days each of you gets one lie in. Only fair way about it.

Yabu - you can't hope to penalise him for not going to bed when you think he should! He's a grown up!