to think this scenario is either Odd or Rude?

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And to not be sure what to do about it?

A work colleague is pregnant. As am I. I have a moses basket from my last pregnancy which I wont be using this time around as a friend bought me a crib. I asked my work colleague whether she would like first refusal on the basket and stand and she said yes please.

Ive been off work due to pregnancy complications for the last week or so, and am now signed off sick til my Mat Leave gets enforced at 36 weeks.

I was going to be local to colleagues house one day so I messaged and asked if she would be in and I would drop off the basket and stand. We mutually agreed a time and she sent me her address. When I got to her house, her DH answered the door half asleep me having woken him from sleeping after a night shift and my friend wasnt around either - he said "ill pop and see if she is awake". I apologised and said had I known he had been on nights I wouldhave insisted on a later drop off (it was 10am), and not to wake his wife I would just drop and go.

Driving away i did feel a bit like it was an odd scenario, but each to their own. This was about six days ago and I havent even heard from my colleague. Not even a quick "thanks"

Is she just weird or rude? or am I over thinking this?

Overthinking

Pretty rude unless something has happened in the interim which means she hasn't got round to thanking you yet.

Being asleep when you arrived is not particularly odd: you'd made it clear you were going to be local and were "dropping off" so weren't making a special trip and things happen, maybe she had had an awful night or was sick. I wouldn't get out of bed in those circumstances (although if I'd been awake earlier would have texted you to let you know)

Not contacting you to say thanks is not on though.

Over thinking. Maybe texting to say thanks slipped her mind. Bit rude maybe,but not worth spending any more time thinking about it.

It's both weird and rude to not be there without explanation when you had prearranged it. A lack if thanks is also odd.

A pregnant woman sleeping and forgetting things?!

I did think as I was driving away that maybe she had had a rough night or whatever and thats understandable - our due dates are very close to one anothers so i get how tiring these last few weeks are.

I do think that she could have mentioned her dh was on nights though and I wouldnt have disturbed them at such an early time - i have a car and dont live too far away so didnt have to drop the basket off that day and time specifically.

Meh, ill let it go. Its just not how I would have handled it, but that doesnt make it the wrong way I suppose.

Alright Lord

I think I would have expected her to be a bit more ....grateful....if not then, later on.

I would have text later that day or the next just something like "eeek sorry I wasnt able to pop and say hello when you dropped the basket off, had a rough night, thanks!" Its pretty sizeable - its not like she could have shoved it behind a sofa and forgot she even had it.

Yup. Rude.

No excuse for bad manners.
It would annoy me that I hadn't received a text to say thanks.

It's not hard to text and say "sorry about the other day, I was asleep because of such and such. Thank you for dropping the Moses basket off- it's lovely!". It's pretty difficult to forget when a Moses basket is such a large item...

Personally I'd text and be like "hope you're ok, sorry for waking your husband- didn't realise he was on nights! Hope the Moses basket is ok for you!"

An acknowledgment would have been nice, but maybe she's having a really tough time. Let it go.

Good luck with your pregnancy :)

She's rude. Not exactly hard to say thanks on a text.

Odd.
Maybe rude?
But odd.

YANBU

Text or phone asking if Moses basket etc was okay and checking all is well with her. If husband had to answer door after night shift she must have really needed to be in bed.

If she was home when you dropped it off and didn't even say hi, I would say that was rude.
It's odd that her DP didn't know if she was asleep or not.
Both odd and rude.

I think they might have had a row.

I thought that Amanda. I know in the past if theyve had a row she sleeps at her mums (who lives right next to me) so it woulf have been easier to say "am at my mums" and I wouldnt have thought twice of it!

Of course it's rude.

And odd.