was I U to go full dragon in response to my sons supermarket meltdown?

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My DS has started full time school this week, and has been a little mardier on the walk home. Probably partly tiredness however today in Sainsburys not allowing my Ds to have a magazine 2 day's in a row sparked a huge crying meltdown that lasted about 15 mins, ...I was livid! I even did the whole wait till your dad comes home, which I hate! I did raise my voice and say consistently I said one sweet that is all! And just said have you finished ?! I didn't give in which I stand by but now im worried im labelled as shouty dragon mum as its my local WIBU?

Eh?

This AIBU is getting out of hand.

You told your kid off, yes? Well done. It does not warrant a AIBU I to tell your kid off.

All other parents who've ever had stroppy five year olds will have been silently cheering you on, and anyone else doesn't count.

Why the hell would you be labelled shouty dragonmum, do you live in dragonland? Don't worry about it, it'll blow over.

YABU for the 'wait for your dad...' I hate that it is so nasty to worry a child like that regardless of the behaviour.
The first term can be really difficult for those just started school so yes he is going to be tired and grumpy for a while yet. Take him a snack and then go home and let him rest instead of taking him shopping.

I don't think you were at all unreasonable. Most of us have been there at some point, and I remember it well.

Kids do have to understand that no means just that - NO. I probably wouldn't have given the sweet, and I never liked saying wait till dad gets home. To me it gives the impression that whilst they have to obey him, they can get away with more when they are with me. Not so (in fact, probably the other way round in our house ).

If I did pinky I think the aisle will have been scorched lol, I felt like all eyes were on me could have heard a pin drop it was mortifying! We quietly scuttled out with DS wimpering "this is the worst day ever" bless him, parents dont really chastise in public now do they? Not like when I was growing up

No, you weren't being U. You were being a good parent and reinforcing what your DS had been told.
Well done! It is easier to give in to that sort of pressure especially in a public place.
And don't worry because nobody is perfect all the time.

I do have stock phrases which help keep an element of calm - dragons come out when We Are Running Late - Why Aren't Your Shoes On?

"I hate you , you never ...." Response:" that's a shame because I love you very much"

"I want...." Response: " you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you might get what you need"

"I...can't..say...whats ... Wrong IM TOO SAAAAADDDDD" Response: " well that makes me too sad too WAAAHHHH" The mock crying generally gets them laughing.

I've had dd1 whose nearly seven literally scream a full 20 minutes yesterday because I wouldn't get sweets as she had some at home - Going full dragon would have been a good release tbh.

Timeforabiscuit My response to 'I hate you' was 'I don't like you much at the moment either, brat'. Admittedly it was to my younger sibling, not a child, worked though.

YANBU OP, if he's tantruming- you discipline. He's lucky I wouldn't have given him any sweets until he behaves.

My ds started full time school this week too and has been tired and grumpy all week. But I understand why that is. It's a big change for him and he's so exhausted he fell asleep on the sofa at 4.30pm today.

I wouldn't want to shout at him because he can't control or express his emotions and tiredness, however I could understand reaching the end of your tether and being unable to ignore it - I've been there! I'm tired from a full week in work and I feel like crying over silly things too, which makes it harder to deal with other people's tantrums.

I don't know what full dragon means but OP sounds like being a parent to me?

Parenting eh? Every morning this week has been a challenge with DD2. She's tired of herself whinging now.
I am sure noone thought much of it. Getting on with their day was probably on everyone's mind