AIBU - or is he? Feeling really frustrasted with DH!!!

[Fizzielove]

Ok - here goes!!

So I work 37.5hrs a week - company traditionally finishes at 1pm if you have your hours worked up. I start at 6.30 and finish at 2.30 to collect DS from school and do homeworks as he's been having issues.

DH works 35 hrs a week and has just gotten seriously narky on the phone and given off about the number of time I've done early starts!!

Basically I try to work up my hours so I can get left work at 1pm on Friday so I can tidy the house, do shopping etc. without DC.

I do as many if not more drop offs and pick ups with the kids!!

This whole narky thing has come about cos I can get Friday afternoon off every week (not this week tho!!) and he doesn't - BUT he COULD if he just got out of bed and went in to work early on the days I'm doing the drop offs - but does he!!! No - he lies in bed and goes in for 10am!!!

Arrrggghhhh - sorry - just needed to vent!!

Yanbu, he sounds very selfish. It's his son too he should step up.

I'd hardly call it an afternoon "off" if you are spending it cleaning and shopping for the familly. I would add those hours to the total amount you work and tell DP to F off !

He accused me of doing mostly early starts this week - so I copied my time sheets into an email and sent them to him to prove he's being a prat!

YNBU.He's an idiot who needs to grow up.

Home delivery is the answer. Still leave early and sit down at home with a cuppa

How much housework and shopping does he do? I think what is happening is that he would like to avoid pick-ups, drop-offs and housework. Housework is easier to avoid, talk around, debate but drops-offs and pick-ups either happen of they don't. So, I predict that if you did them all, and missed your Friday afternoon of housework, you would still be doing it some other time and he would get to lie in bed, do no child-related tasks and also no housework.

You also work MORE HOURS than him.

He does the ....... not sure what he does though he claims he does a lot of picking up after me and that I am so messy!!

Errrr - I do all the cooking / laundry / bathing of children / shopping / finances.......starting to feel like a complete doormat!! When I bring it up he gets really quite annoyed and gives off!!

afternoon off my arse!

Maybe you should actually take one of them off and tell him it's his turn to do the extra work you do on top of the other work you do!

Maybe I'll just cut my hours ;-)

What the fuck does he want?

I'd be very agreeable to starting work later. Then you can discuss who will do all the pick ups/drop offs homework/housework etc

Sounds like a good opportunity to share out all the household chores and childcare.

I would honestly tell him to fuck right off with his attitude, lazy idiot he is!

Mabey you should!

If your doing all most of the household etc stuff on top of working most hours then the only fair solution is you work less hours so you have more time to do the other stuff which= you and dh doing same amount of work.

Also 10am start lovely 6.30am start f@ck that!

So you get up early to ensure you have done enough hours to a) pick your child up from school every day and b) get off early enough to catch up with housework on a Friday afternoon. What exactly is his problem with that? That he has to get his own child up and ready for school? That he doesn't get Friday afternoon 'off' because he hasn't done enough hours the rest of the week? I don't really understand, but he sounds like a knob!