To be disappointed on my birthday

[Snowmonkey77]

OH arranged for a big cake.. don't have the heart to tell him that the thought of cake right now makes me feel sick (20 weeks pregnant). Other presents were: a set of cake tins (he is the cake addict not me).. and some saucisson sec (can't eat that either). He went into town this morning and he obviously grabbed them as an afterthought. Feeling a bit upset! I know he has no money at the moment, but really - is that it? Feeling teary and flat. Should I just get over it?

Happy Birthday!

Personally I'd just get over it, but I'm not really bothered about my own birthday too much anyway (I do enjoy spoiling the DC on their birthdays). If he doesn't have much money then I guess it's not easy but he could've got you some flowers I suppose instead of cake tins.

You're allowed to feel a bit teary when you're preggers, blokes are just sometimes a bit crap when it comes to present buying. Maybe ask him to make you something else for dessert as a birthday treat?

Happy birthday. I think some people are just not natural thoughtful gift givers. When I was 32 weeks pregnant with dd2 dh bought me a push bike and a garden hose. I cried. The next year I at least could have wine to buffer the present disappointment.
Enjoy the rest of your day.

My DH is crap at buying presents, well not crap, but..........

He always asks me for a list at Christmas, otherwise he'd be really stuck!

from your cyber-brother. Enjoy the day.

Happy Birthday. YABU to be upset as he made an effort.

My DH got me...nothing!

I couldn't be upset as my DH hs worked 7 days a week for months now and he's knackered...he could have ordered online but is terrible with computers....I chose my own gift after the event!

Happy birthday!
Are you doing anything this evening? Maybe something nice this evening will cheer you up.

Thanks for the birthday wishes all who have responded :) At least I didn't get a hosepipe! That would have tipped me over the edge into a full-on tantrum! I think that my little girl pouty side is just sad that as I approach 40 birthdays don't seem as special any more. I think I am being unreasonable and hormonal. He did make some effort and in the past he has given me some beautiful and thoughtful presents. Slightly rankles that I bought him a record deck and blues records for his birthday though ... but I will get over it! The money thing does make it difficult. The biggest gift of this birthday and my entire life has to be this baby I am growing. He gave left me a card to open from the baby early this morning which made me burst into tears of joy and happiness. Yes - I am most definitely being unreasonable - and ungrateful too.

Happy Birthday!!

I have taken to buying my own birthday and christmas presents, because after 25 years I have finally got fed up of the make-up sets and unsuitable jewellery that are his default gifts to me, despite me rarely wearing either.

For my 30th birthday my husband bought me a.....memory stick. No joke.

Happy birthday
Yanbu btw. I would be miffed off with cake tins as a birthday present too. Enjoy the rest of your day and put your feet up :)

I got so fed up with disappointing gifts from dp I just told him some suggestions before the date - or bought something and asked if it could be for my birthday. Think he was more than happy with this arrangement as he has never done the gift thing very well

I had well chosen cards and that is all! We are skint to be fair and that is all DP got when it was his birthday.

I think adults expectations of birthdays can sometimes be a little silly and hark back more to childhood than having a grip on reality.

Having said that, you are pregnant, so whatever you say or feel is perfectly correct.