Not really ainu but posted here as no replies in chat,
Ds 7yo started playing out on the front a few months ago as he's getting older I've happily let him play with the 8yo boy across the road, our street is a quiet cul de sac and the boys have played nicely together. A few days later a girl from around the corner started to join then playing out she's 9yo and at first things were fine they all played along together.
Fast forward a few weeks and ds is coming in upset all the time as the 9yo girl has done something to him i.e hit him, calling him names, telling him to do naughty things then knocking on our door to get him in trouble, I am watching the majority of the time and have seen her do these things and have always gone out and tried to deal with the situation thinking there just kids and they will fight sometimes.
However things have got worse I was outside watching them the other day and the girl has purposely gone in front of ds on his bike causing him to fall off and hurt himself! The day after she has hit him with her scooter which I saw and she has come over to me and said it was a accident and that he then pinched her somewhere uncomfortable!! I called ds over he was obviously upset and I asked what had happened and he said he pushed her after she hit him with the scooter.
I brought ds in and have now said he cannot play with her if she can't be nice, things have been fine until ds was happily playing in our front garden with his ball after he did his reading homework tonight and I'm upstairs with ds2 getting ready for bed, windows are open so I can hear ds1.
I can then hear the girls mum (who is stood across the road gossiping to our neighbours) saying to my ds that he shouldnt touch girls 'boobies' she said this a few times and then said he should go and ask his mum!
Im home alone as dh is at work and i just cannot be bothered with a row so I have told ds to come him, he's v shaken and Ive just told him to stay in for the time being.
Now I'm not sure what to do, ds is a young 7 and I'm not saying he doesn't know what's inappropriate but he most certainly would not have touched a girls chest, the way she was implying anyway. Im frustrated with myself as I feel like I should have gone over to her and explained this, but i know it would have ended in a row and I had ds2 2 yo in the house and could not be dealing with a row on the street as I am not the type.
Now my ds cannot play out when this girl is out as I am fed up with the trouble and its not fair on him coming in upset all the time but I feel its so wrong that he can't go and play on our front because of a trouble maker round the corner, How on earth should I handle this, Ive never been in this situation before and don't know what to do?
Sorry just realised how long this is.