Im 7 months pregnant and can't sleep. I had a fall out with my husband last night. He got home from work just before 7 as he had a meeting. He usually finishes at 4 but had to wait for a meeting from5-6. I was in alot of pain yesterday with spd and also a sharp pain low down maybe ligament pain i'm not sure but he told me they were not being paid for the meeting and i admit i wasn't happy as i had been on my own for 3 hours longer than i needed to be when i could hardly walk.
I have 2 other children aged 2 and 4 and my 4 year old is very challenging. Anyway i as probably unreasonable moaning about his work but by this time i was in alot of pain. Anyway he gets all moody and goes out the front door to drive off in his car( he always does this when we argue leaving me with the children). I asked him to not go as i needed his help as i had to put the boys to bed and he ignored me and went anyway.. I got upset my 4 year old was crying as he hadn't had a kiss off his dad. That's what annoys me, im left to pick up the pieces. I get the boys to bed and my husband comes back about half an hour later acting like nothing happened. His reason was he needed to get out. I said he hadn't been in the house 30 minutes i was the one that needed to have a break. It annoys me that he can just up abs leave when it suits. I said whatever issue he has with me he should still help get boys ready for bed. My 4 year old can take over 2 hours to settle for sleep.
If this was a one off i could maybe ignore it but it's not. Also he swears such as saying for fucks sake while my 4 year old is around. I told him not to swear in front of the boys but he ignores me. When he is calm he admits he shouldn't but nothing changes as there is always a next time.
Also he took our dog to the vets last week as i found a lump on her. I gave him some cash out of savings but it wasn't enough so he had to put it on credit card. When he got back i wanted to know how the dog was and all he went on about was how much money i had given him and was moody over that and he said you only love that stupid dog anyway. He doesn't think twice about putting things he needs for his car on the cars, i just find how he is so hurtful.
He also in an argument throws in my face he pays the bill( Im a SAHM only due to childcare costing more than my wage) that hurts. I tell him that when i took redundancy i used that payment as our deposit. Also i had an inheritance from my nan when she died and i used it to do our house up and buy furniture etc. I also gave him£1000 to put towards his car and another £1000 to pay off his credit card which had been used for car and house items. So although im not earning at the moment i so contribute in other ways.
I was wondering if he shows signs of a narcissistic personality? I don't know much about it but he seems to put his feelings first. For example i was having pains the other night and as i'm a bit worried about the birth mentioned to him and he says things like im stressing me out. Don't know what to do as i don't really want to leave him but can't live with him like this. He used to be so different when we first met. Please advise. Sorry if rambling. Just thoughts going through my head in the middle of the night.