to complain to nursery

[wanderingcloud]

Genuinely don't know if IANBU here. Last night in the bath I noticed DS2 (18mths) has marks that look very much like small bite marks across his back.

Nursery didn't mention anything at pick up about him being bitten but he did have a huge black eye that they had done an accident form about, the reasons for that seemed very plausible knowing DS2, he has NO fear and is very boisterous generally.

Rather than drip feed I will say it's not the first instance of him having come home with random bruising. On separate occasions in the past I have noticed unexplained bruises on him and our GP also noticed and mentioned that I should be "keep an eye" on him.

DH says I'm overreacting by wanting to complain and that it's bound to happen that the odd injury will occur out of eyes of the nursery nurses, certainly he does pick up the odd bruise at home that I haven't seen happen but I feel terribly that I am failing my son by not raising this with them.

Generally, I'm very happy with nursery and DS1 has never been a cause for concern. We can't afford to move them anywhere else, this is the only barely affordable childcare option we have.

I would definitely raise it. Toddlers do get a lot of bruises especially on the front of their legs but bite marks should definitely be reported so they can keep an eye to check the children are not biting. A black eye doesn't soun great either. What explanation did they give for that?

He was climbing and fell into the corner of a cabinet. It sounded very likely, he's a terror for climbing the furniture and throwing himself off. I worry that he's perhaps not being watched carefully enough considering that he is so active and fearless.

Yes I agree with you. Accident sounds likely to be true but he should have been more closely supervised to prevent it.

I'd politely mention it. Things do get missed. I've had to sign for marks on my two where the incident was missed, they've just found a mark at some point. My two are quite stoic, so if they haven't made a fuss, it's harder for the workers to catch every incident.

nursery nurse here I would def mention it. I would also be very concerned about the black eye incident, the staff should of been watching him, no excuses for that, completely unacceptable! Is he in the baby room? (Our little ones move up to toddlers at 18 months)

You should mention it. They can't keep their eye on them all the time, in fact they're not supposed to!

DS2 once had a massive bite mark on his hand, none of the staff saw it happen, but did see it on his hand and tried to work out who was responsible but DS was vague about it. But they filled in an incident slip anyway, with as much as they knew.

But if the bite had been under clothes, there's no way they could have seen it.

NO you must mention it. Your DS has been bitten and either nobody has noticed or someone couldn't be bothered to mention it/fill in a form.

Not good enough either way.

Thanks to everyone who gave advice :) I mentioned it to the manager this morning at drop off and she said she'd pass on message to the leader in toddlers. She was mortified and said she would def keep an eye out in future. Feeling much better that they are aware.

Glad you raised it. Hopefully they will be more alert to the fact this might happen. Hope your little is ok today .