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AIBU to want know one to be in my life?

6 replies

Shiongmaoniao · 12/09/2014 00:41

Ok maybe not know one i want my kids and a couple of friends
but i truly believe i would be happier with just them in my life
i feel like every one else expects more than i can give right now and possibly ever give
i know i have many issues but i always feel like i have to live up to what every one else expects of me and what they wish i was instead of who i am
recently my Husband has been coming home later i have had a row with my mum and have had very little contact with people in general and i have been the happiest i have ever been
i see one of my friends every day (school run) and will see other friend once a week/fortnight this makes me happy and relived
no expectations no need to please just me and my kids
do some people just work better this way and why does society (or society that i know) think we need so many people in our lives to survive?

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CarbeDiem · 12/09/2014 00:50

Yanbu - you can't really help how you feel but it would depend really.
I can survive without many people around regularly but I'm quite sure that I wouldn't like it if I had no one around permanently.

Practical things - Find out why your Dh is coming home later.
Build bridges with your dm, if possible. Say no to people who want things from you.

Shiongmaoniao · 12/09/2014 00:54

my husband is coming home later because his mum is in hospital and its not looking good no advoidence just has to be there for her
and no she gave me up as a child and spent the whole tme once i knew the true plying me off against my nan who raised me
just both situs made me realise how much easier life was with no one around

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randomfemale · 12/09/2014 01:04

YANBU - I am in a similar situation. Fucked off my 'family' years ago and have recently fucked off the DH's family too. I now just have my two daughters and DH. Works for me. Life is too short to give space to arse holes.

Shiongmaoniao · 12/09/2014 01:46

im glad im not alone
i just want "breezy" relationships ie friends or not close family
too much deep or complicated in my life for too long

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poolomoomon · 12/09/2014 02:04

Yanbu. I realise humans are naturally sociable creatures but we also do desperately need solitary time, even if that lasts for months sometimes, to keep ourselves healthy and sane. Everyone's different. Some people crave interaction from other humans all of the time, others are happier keeping people at arms length and some prefer interaction with animals or themselves. We're all fucking weirdos so don't think being any one way makes you in particular different or weird. If you want to keep other beings at a distance do it.

I CBA with people most of the time. Too much hassle and drama for me and I get really socially awkward with new people. I literally lose sleep over the thought of having to go to a party, I avoid big social gatherings at all costs.

MummyBeerest · 12/09/2014 02:47

Yanbu.

I used to feel really lonely until nobody would leave me alone.

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