It's one of my closest friends (A)'s birthday next Thursday. AGES ago I agreed to visit another friend (B) this coming weekend who lives some distance away. Last week, A's husband invited DH, myself and some others all out for a meal this coming Saturday to celebrate A's birthday as a surprise for her. I was quite disappointed as I'd actually have preferred to go out with best friends close to home but had to decline as already had the commitment to visit B, I'd kind of assumed we'd be celebrating A's birthday the following weekend but her and DH are going on holiday.
ANYWAY, incidentally B (who had no knowledge of A's birthday meal etc) got in touch to say that she'd not realised I'd been at a festival last weekend so would understand if I didn't fancy travelling again so soon after especially as I'm 24 weeks pregnant so offered to come and stay here instead. Great I thought, no travelling and we can all go to A's birthday. A's husband extended the booking to accommodate B, DH and I and all was good and I've been really looking forward to it.
B then said yesterday she's bringing her DP to visit too. She would assume that was ok as they've occasionally visited together before, we don't know him well but he's been cycling with DH when he's here and they get on ok. Also she only sees him sporadically at weekends and she knows I'm sympathetic to them being keen to see eachother when they get chance.
A's DH said the restaurant can't extend the booking any more, so basically we can't go, I'm gutted. What's even more annoying is some other friends going have visitors too whom A doesn't know, so a couple of strangers will be there while her closest friends (us) aren't... I was kind of hoping A's DH would suggest maybe finding another restaurant that could accommodate us all but he's not mentioned it so sod it.
I know it's fundamentally just a chain of events that's no-ones fault really, but I'm just annoyed DH and I have to miss a rare night out with our best friends who we don't see enough of as it is as everyone's always so mad busy. If A was organising it, I'm pretty sure she'd have suggested finding a different restaurant. I think her DH isn't considering that possibly because its nearby to where one couple attending live who are relying on grandparental childcare, so restricted to their town where there also happens to be an annual event on that's packed out all the restaurants. I think he's probably had enough of all the to-ing and fro-ing too. He's generally a good egg but it's usually A who arranges their social lives and he's a bit out of his comfort zone.
There's nothing to be done except sit and mope at the annoyance of it all is there. The fact there's a small person sitting on my bladder probably isn't helping my rational mind. I want someone to be cross at. DH looks ripe... I just need an AIBU slap please.