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To think my colleague is being neurotic, re alcohol fumes

18 replies

tallulahturtle · 11/09/2014 21:17

My manager has just had a baby and the other day he was saying that he was upset that he overdid it on a work social as the whole next day he couldn't hold the baby.

I thought "ah yes well if you are still a bit drunk then yes it is risky if you are a bit shakey on your feet."

He said, "no, I had to keep her away from alcohol fumes on my breath".

I think he is being a bit precious , but as I have no children I thought I would see what the general opinion is as I had never heard of this before. I have heard of not breastfeeding with alcohol in your system, but never been told of the dangers of alcohol fumes!?

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SantanaLopez · 11/09/2014 21:18

You have to be pretty hungover to still have alcohol fumes though.

No one would be holding my baby reeking of booze.

Trills · 11/09/2014 21:28

Sounds overly precious to me, you'd have to be REALLY hungover to have "alcohol fumes", and even if you did they wouldn't actually do any harm.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 11/09/2014 21:29

YANBU- this is totally ridiculous! And anyway, it's perfectly safe to drink small amounts while pregnant and breastfeeding. The world 's gone mad

MamaPain · 11/09/2014 21:35

Ridiculous. Can't stand such neuroticism.

NoodleOodle · 11/09/2014 21:37

Yanbu. Totally ott!

TheRealMaryMillington · 11/09/2014 21:40

Maybe it was a brilliant ruse on his part to get out of his share of the night feeds

Or maybe the child's mother was a really pissed off- mildly irritated by the state of him and thought this 'ud learn him

ilovechristmas1 · 11/09/2014 21:57

does that mean that the baby will never leave the house due to cars banging out fumes 24/7

WD41 · 11/09/2014 22:02

Tbh if I had a newborn and my DH went out and got so drunk there were fumes the following day, I'd be pissed off and wouldn't want them holding the baby either. Not because the fumes are dangerous, but hardly pleasant for the baby and if that hungover I'd be concerned whether they were fit to be holding them.

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tallulahturtle · 11/09/2014 22:04

He he thanks for the replies. Well I would say it is a ruse to get out of the night feeds but from what he has said so far he is a very hands on dad and happily does night feeds etc and he uses the phrase "ive just had a baby" rather than "my wife has just had a baby" , so i think possibly he as well as his wife are suffering from precious newborn syndrome?

He also refers to he baby as "baby" rather than "the baby" which for some reason irritates me , but that's a whole other thread!!!

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MrsCurrent · 11/09/2014 22:04

Doesn't seem to have harmed my slightly loopy children

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 11/09/2014 22:11

He sounds like a prize prick! Like someone said up thread I'd say ' oh, so you'll never be taking 'baby' out in the street then, coz of the fumes'. Wanker

TheRealAmandaClarke · 11/09/2014 22:28

Yabu
Not your baby. Why do you care that someone is worried about this with their own?
Tbh i cant really get the gist of the conversation.
He was actually upset about not holding his baby because he was worried about alcohol fumes?
Or are we all actually supposed to criticise baby's mother for saying this?

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tallulahturtle · 11/09/2014 22:46

Yes he was upset that he couldn't hold his baby for a whole day as he was breathing alcohol fumes.
This wasn't his wife saying this, it was both him and his wife agreeing that alcohol fumes were dangerous.

This is why I asked the question on here, to see if it was a genuine risk or if they just need to chill out. He can be very panicky about things so thought if it wasn't a risk then I could at least tell him.

I myself was just generally curious as had never heard of this before.

But as others have said, if alcohol is dangerous presumably the baby wont be allowed outside....

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TheRealAmandaClarke · 11/09/2014 23:21

Well he'll not be getting so pissed next time then.
And yes, the fumes can be a danger if youre still reeking the next day.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 11/09/2014 23:24

You know what. Having a baby is a big life change. They are fragile and vulnerable and if someone wants to take an extra bit of care, thats ok by me.

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 11/09/2014 23:24

Omg men will trot out any old crap to not change a nappy.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 11/09/2014 23:27

The pair of them are utterly bonkers!

Has Baby not got a name yet?? If not you could suggest Jack :)

lavenderhoney · 11/09/2014 23:36

Well, no one wants stinky next day alchohol fumes over them! Does he not own a toothbrush and mouthwash?

I should imagine he entered the pfb nursery and blighted it with his hangover, and realised he was grown up now, and being stinky of drink isn't the best thing for a baby to associate with love, and panicked:)

And perhaps his dw had a word about it, I can say that being all warm and clean and smelling nice and a drunken boozy bloke don't really go together!

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