To think my mum is being odd about this? Wedding related, sorry!

[collectorofcookbooks]

We have a family wedding at the end of the month. We're staying in the same place as the venue, although not at the venue itself.

My DB, SIL and DN will be there as will my parents and our DTs.

My mother is intending to ask my cousin (the bride) if she can pay for the photographer to take a group shot of just our part of the family all glammed up as a 70th birthday present to herself. Her idea is that the photographer can just 'pop down' before the wedding ceremony itself.

I think she's bang out of order. My SIL thinks it's hilarious, DB thinks it's a bit 'meh'. DH just says it's typical of her to make it all about her, and he'll go along with it.

I have a good camera and can't see why another relative can't take a few shots with that before the wedding, thus not bothering the wedding party.

I can see why she'd like a group shot but come on...is it me? AIBU to think this is really cheeky?

And if it's relevant, she had a huge fuss over her birthday, it's not like we didn't celebrate it with her and give her gifts.

Very rude. Shockingly self absorbed to think the photographer should be doing this on the morning of someone else's wedding.

I don't really see the problem with this.

Your Mum is offering to pay the photographer so presumably they can say no if they don't have time.

You'll all be dressed up so it's a good opportunity for a nice family photo.

There's bags of time before a wedding for this kind of thing- unless the bride wants photos of her putting on her knickers.

If your Mum just expected the photographer to take time out on the day to do it then YANBU but if they have time and can be commissioned to do it, what's the problem?