To wish that people wouldn't stealth boast on here?

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Especially on relationship threads. You know the comments.... " your husband never has sex? I'd get rid... Mine bonks me 5 times a night and can hardly keep his hands off me." Type thing.
I find it smug in the guise of trying to be helpful.

But maybe they're trying to give the OP some perspective, that there are better relationships to be had out there if one so chooses to leave the current shit situation they're in?

Tricky one. I agree to an extent. On one hand, we desperately want other women to see that they don't have to accept crap from the men in their lives and that expecting love and respect should be a basic starting point.

But on the other hand, sometimes it's a bit shit when somebody feels insecure or low about how they're being treated and they get 'well MY husband loves me just as I am, can't keep his hands off me and does all the housework too'.

Ok I'll just dump mine then and get off with yours?

Good point, Morris.

I think that often these comments are to help. It is really rare to know how other peoples relationships work behind closed doors. Information like that can be eye opening.
I certainly realised warning signs all along about my exH were there, but because some things don't get discussed all I have is the benefit of hindsight.

I suggest that you look up the definition of 'stealth'.

But YANBU you can wish pretty much anything you like and not be unreasonable... wishing wont make anything so, so it's pretty harmless.

However, YWBU if you thought you could tell people how to post.

Aw yes, very true about that not being the true definition of 'stealth boast.'

There are posters I'd worry about if they didn't do this. It's almost a comforting ritual. I swear I could tell you what weeks their marvellous other halves had taken as annual leave this summer.

Yeah I do know what you mean O.P. It's like rubbing salt in the wounds, isn't it. People come on asking for support and advice and can end up feeling worse that they do.
It's very easy for people to come to a forum under a a n.n where no-one knows them and stealth boost how perfect their husbands are ect ect but anyone can make things up on here. There's no way of finding out if they're true or not.

It doesn't worry me.
This is a place to ask for advice. If i had £1K to spend on a handbag or was deciding between Eton & Harrow I'd happily ask for opinions on an anonymous forum. Much better than being flash IRL.
sadly I have neither of these dilemmas

I think I'd rather have a dp who never wanted to have sex over one who wanted to have sex 5 times a night and was constantly pawing at me.

I think the example of sex is difficult because the desire to have sex is not really a choice and it's very personal and individual.

I think in situations like when posters say "my dp never helps out with our baby" it's reasonable to say my dp does all the early mornings, every bedtime and took 4 months parental leave, he adores spending time with our dc is helpful to show that lazy, uninterested dads are not normal.

I wouldn't say it's boasting it's more a case of saying how things could or should be.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2181811-Aibu-to-be-fed-up-of-little-girls-chasing-my-hot-teacher-dp

This is a good example of a stealth boast
Sorry OP of above thread they sound very annoying and I would definitely speak to HOY but I read your thread after this one

I don't think it's any worse than this OP making snide threads about the posters of other threads! I mean, seriously? The OP of that thread seemed genuinely annoyed by the problem, and - as several posters have suggested - it is a real issue.

Can't we get beyond this playground stuff and have a conversation where we give the benefit of the doubt?

I was just teasing external as I said I read that thread after this one.
As I also said it sounds very annoying and I would definitely be doing something about it. It was just the 'hot teacher DP' that made me chuckle

Sorry mumukahoney, humourfail on my part!! I did think that was the thread that this was aimed at and felt a bit sorry for the other poster!

Mental note to read more carefully next time!

No worries
I'm not sure this is about that thread, as other have said the OP seems to have the 'stealth' bit a little confused.

I like a good boast. I think often people will put themselves

When people tell you how much they drink, double it. When they tell you how much they have sex, halve it. People bragging on the internet is standard, I would take those posts with a pinch of salt.

I love a good boast tbh. I think we are too quick to put ourselves and others down and begrudge others success. This makes us feel like we can't celebrate our good fortune.

I have a son who is lovely and is hilarious, a Dp who loves me and a roof over our head and food in the fridge. It hasn't always been easy but we are happy and I should be able to say that.

Mind you I hate those disingenuous threads, you know the ones, "I saw a benefit cheating racist kicking an old granny in the face while shouting homophobic slurs and drawing kittens, was I wrong to intervene? " drive me mad!!@

You want people on the internet to stop boasting?

Good luck with that.

Jesus I know not to use my sense of humour when asking for advice anymore

Anyway I must get back, dp's picking me up in the lambo and we will be spending all night shagging so must dash. Cheerio

When I read about these drop dead gorjuss husbands who can't stop shagging and buying amaaaazing gifts I just look over at my dribbling, farting lump in his Megadeth tshirt i think how lucky I am. I KNOW he loves me

...and no one else would have him..