To refuse to go to uncle grave ( trigger warning and sensitive)

[PiperIsOrange]

16 years on and i am still very angry with him.

My dad wants me to take him, and I really can not go. I did not go to the funeral and have been angry ever since the time of the phonecall.

he was 10x over the legal limit. He was drunk and 'lucky' only he was killed. Nobody apart from family/friends was effected.

My dad is hurt that i still cant forgive him, but I cant.

Well I took my dad today. It went well and I even took a small bunch of flowers.

Well done you

Well done. Hope it helps to let the healing begin. Sixteen years is a long time to hold onto your distress.

Well done op. Hopefully going with your dad to support him might help you.

I know you've already done it, but fwiw, I actually think YANBU to your original post.

Accompanying your father does not signify your acceptance or approval of your uncle. You know that somewhere inside yourself. So focus on the task of helping your father and separate out your feelings of anger at your uncle which you can deal with privately.

Sorry! Just seen consequent posts. Well done OP. Brave.