to think that some MN'rs can't post without using the word JUDGE

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Is there a topic where the word hasn't been used?

And Isn't the word a lazy way of saying you don't agree with somebody's views?

In real life I try to learn a bit more before jumping into the judgey pants, but on here you're stuck with the info you've got, unless you want to wait until the thread expands before responding.

Er... Isn't AIBU all about judgement? Although in making a judgement, some posters can be a little.... Judgmental? Which is a different thing. And so they get (quite rightly IMO) called on that. As you were.

I judge all the time

I am a High Court Judge though.

YANBU OP, it's an annoying word and constantly misused on MN (as a synonym for having an opinion).

The people who use it most tend to be the most intolerant of others' differences, ironically enough.

Fenton, you and I both know that's a double bluff.

I personally don't see anything wrong with making judgements about people, based on my values in life. It doesn't mean they are wrong, wrong, wrong, or I am right, right, right, it's just me saying "whatever it is" could be something I don't agree with.

Like a woman sleeping with 3 or 4 different men in 1 week, which I thought sounded terrible and made me think the person has real problems. Other people thought it was absolutely fine, up to the two consenting adults, impossible for us to know all the details, all that stuff.

But it couldn't be right in my mind, not in a million years. It doesn't make me bad judging that situation. I rarely do "sitting on the fence", but more often than not I don't post it on MN or talk about it, it just creates bad feeling.

Being non-judgemental about everything means living in a moral vacuum. I don't want to live in a moral vacuum so will stand up for my right and capacity to make judgements for myself and about other people.

Just to clarify, I think it's impossible to not be judgmental at times.

My question is: Why are so many posters SO quick to label other posters as being judgemental/judgy?
It's almost as if its a case of: ''I can't think what to say, I Know! why don't I accuse the OP of being judgy! that'll put her in her place!''

Then they are being unrealistic, and I would wager, hypocritical.. I bet you half the things people grumble about are things they either do themselves or would do in the circumstances described in an OP.

We're all bosom-hoikers at heart!

Just want to say:

Judge Reinhard!

AND Judge Rinder (Britain's answer to Judge Judy)

Ooooh, Candy, you said Judge TWICE!

Double