To think SIL should at least acknowledge I have done some of his bloody housework!

[MadeMarion]

I childmind once a week my 2 GSs (6 and 17months). DD works from 7.30 to 8 pm so I don't even see her and sleep over to do any toddler wakings (lots) the night before. Also help with the baths and beds.

During the day I tidy up, clean the work tops, tidy toys, load the dishwasher, and SIL loads the washing machine. He doesn't ask me to put it in the tumble dryer, or do do further loads of washing or hang towels on the line. I do these jobs because I know how washing can build up.

Of course I do the school run, bedtime reading, feeding the kids etc etc.

So. SIL doesn't even acknowledge I do these extras, let alone thank me. I've done this now for several weeks, including cleaning the kitchen and bathroom and even a bit of decorating now and then.

He works 8-4 btw.

Not one fecking word of thanks.

AIBU to expect something

WIBU to not do these jobs again?

Good Grief - Do you want to come and be my mother!

IMO YWNBU to not do those jobs again- I think the child care provided is more than enough .

Why isn't your daughter thanking you? Seems like the pair do them take you for granted especially the night wakings.

Do you stay after he gets in to do bath and bed!? if so - stop!! simply do a quick handover and leave.

Why are you doing the overnight too??

Blimey,do you live near me?!

I would expect your daughter to be thanking you, really. Not so much your SIL, although obviously that would be nice.

OP - I have a spare bedroom - no children to wake in the night.

Can you come and live with me please? :)

Your DD and SIL are taking the proverbial.

Bloody Hell, are you available to work for me? YANBU, they should both be thanking you, all the time!

I am up for adoption. please adopt me and have my lovely DC as your Grandchildren! We would say thank you for anything you did for us!

I love you op for not assuming housework is women's work )other than actually doing it!) as sems to be happening on so many threads

I am fully stretched as a mother

The night wakings is because DD is an ICU nurse and needs to be on the ball!

The washing and drying, clothes folding etc is SILs job as DD does most other things as she is part time.

I draw the line at sorting and folding clothes from the dryer so not handling anyone's underwear

I will moan to DD who does thank me for things I do and seriously consider not doing them again! Not even an acknowledgement accept to say (when I said I'd put the second load in to 'synthetic' dry 'will that won't dry them then!' It did!

SIL always does the baths with DD. He is actually pretty good around the house and will often come home and do the cooking.

But why cant he do the night wakings? Most if not all working parents handle night wakings without needing someone to stay over

They do them the rest of the week. DD works Sunday and Tuesday and SIL looks after them on Sunday though he takes them to his mothers most of the day

OP: you're a saint but if no-one acknowledges, never mind thanks you, then stop doing it. I'm sure they will notice and very probably ask why. And then you can tell them.

My mum used to do jobs for me i didn't want her to, and then expect thanks.
One evening we had A blazing row with me going "but i didn't ask you to"

I will stop doing the extras like washing. Maybe he doesn't like me doing it?

Will see if there is a reaction

Bloody hate my own washing so I'm happy to stop doing it. Would much rather play with toddler GS anyway

Glad some folk would appreciate me though