Long time lurker and first time poster - be gentle with me! And sorry it's so long!
A bit of background:
I've known my best friend since secondary school (over 10 years ago). We went to the same college together where she met her fiancé. So I know him pretty well. We've had one of those friendships where we can go weeks without any contact, then one of us will message the other and it's like time hasn't passed.
Best friend and her fiancé got engaged December last year. They've struggled a bit with money, so I asked if i could offer my services and make her wedding invitations for her as my wedding present to them. Originally they planned their wedding for March 2015, so plenty of time to get the invites made and sent out. Cut to March 2014, and I get a message that they've bumped their wedding up to end of October 2014, and would I be able to start thinking about the invites. Not a problem. Gets to beginning of April, and I've heard nothing from her about the invites. I message to get the ball rolling. Nothing. End of May, I get a message to say "sorry for the silence, here are the colour choices, nothing fancy, just simple. I'll email all the details." So once I get the email, I start the mock ups. A week later, I get another email saying all is fine, and can she have 100 invites by end of June. It was a push, but I managed to get them all done, she collected them, she was happy. Whilst she was at mine, she wrote both her parents and parents friends invite, as she was seeing them later that day. Wondered if she'd do mine too, as it would have saved her postage, but didn't think anything of it when she left without giving me mine (bear in mind since she announced her engagement, she's spoken to me non-stop about how she couldn't not invite me to the wedding).
Fast forward to middle of August, and I'm seeing Facebook updates that she's started sending the invites out. I text her to ask how she's getting on with them. I get a message back same day saying how everyone is loving them, and can I send her my address so she can send mine out. I send my address.
A week later, and still no invite. However I get a text hushing over how lovely the invites are. Random.
I was starting to get a bit concerned about not having an invite, so a week later I message being a bit blunter "I'm a bit worried I haven't had my invite. DP needs to know if it will be a day/evening invite as his colleague wants to book the same day off, and he's got first refusal" she replies back saying she's sorry but she's been ill, so couldn't get to the post office, but of course it's a day invite. She's assumed because I've asked that DP and I have said we'll go.
Well I've still not had my invite through. I've provisionally booked the day off, however I will need to book a hotel and cabs to/from the venue. Not to mention sort my outfit.
DP is starting to get rather annoyed about the whole situation, and has rambled "well if she can't be bothered to post an invite, then I can't be bothered to spend my money on going". And tbh, I don't really blame him for feeling like that.
I've spent best part of £100 on the invites, and given her more than enough time to get an invite to me. Granted I know all the details (venue, times etc), but I can't help but feel a bit annoyed that I haven't received the physical invite. Everyone else has received theirs and she's constantly updating fb with how she's got to sort seating plans etc.
AIBU to not want to go? And any suggestions of what to say to her?