Dh and I have had a really hard year. Our business is failing, we have gone into debt, ds (8) has been struggling at school and is now in a special needs group, dd (2) is waiting for tests to see why she is so short and hasnt grown at all in 12 months along with a massive list of smaller issues.
I have told my gran the basics although I don't tend to go into too much detail she does know how hard things are at the moment and the sheer amount of bad luck we have had.
Every single time I speak to her she says "your mother is watching over you" or "your mother will look out for you". My mum died when I was a teenager and frankly since then I have had more than my share of bad luck! I cant think of a time when something has actually gone right and I think its a really depressing and upsetting thing to say to me when she knows full well that is the case! We have had everything from serious illness and pregnancy losses to loss of house and now our business failing. What exactly is my mother watching over me doing to help...I have this image of my mother sitting on a cloud laughing at us - she might be watching but she is certainly doing fuck all about anything.
I probably sound really really oversensitive to this but it has just driven me mad for years and no matter how many times I say please don't say that it just goes on!