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TO BE MISSED OFF THAT DP HAS LEFT A TRAIL OF HIS SHITE ALL OVER THE PLACE THIS MORNING?????

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losthermind · 08/09/2014 10:27

DP woke me at 5.45 with his clumsy arse self pissing around in the bedroom this morning, he never thinks to just grab all the stuff he needs, which I do if I'm up and out before he needs to be. I heard him leave the house at 7.30 so got out of bed, there was a wet towel on the bedroom floor Hmm.... I get on the landing and his extension lead is all unravelled on the top of the landing cos he couldn't be arsed to move it, 3 chargers on the floor, phone, toothbrush and shavers....bathroom floor is saturated because he didn't have the shower visor situated properly THIS IS ONE OF HIS PET HATES IF ANYONE ELSE DOES IT.
I get to the bottom of the stairs and his pj top is at the door.....enter the living room to the sofa upside down, cushions on the floor and valium powder all over the floor!!!!!!!!! Reach the kitchen to his pj bottoms and a saturated towel thrown on the floor!!!!!! The DC don't make as much carnage as he does, and I think hes a cheeky bleeder for leaving shit all over the show for me to pick up. If it wasn't for the letting agency coming to do their 6 monthly review Id leave it all for him to move himself. Royally pissed off and feel like a dogsbody......arse

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Aherdofmims · 08/09/2014 11:14

Dh always leaves cereal bowl out! Drives me mad.

He did clear dishwasher this am which was good but still left the bowl out!

PumpkinsMummy · 08/09/2014 11:25

Mine does the cereal bowl too. He even used to leave the dregs of milk in the bottom because "the cat likes it" even though I explained many times it gives the cat the shits. Leaving the cat litter for him to clean in the morning has cured him of this. Why is it we have to train grown adult men how to behave in the house like they are small children?!

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 08/09/2014 11:31

An extra laundry-basket or crate. Dump all his stuff in it. Leave it on his side of the bed.

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losthermind · 08/09/2014 11:31

Grin I'm just glad its not just me that has to cope with it, he doesn't do the cereal bowl thing but thats only because he doesn't eat breakfast, he does however leave his plate on the side and doesn't put the remains in the bin or give the plate a rinse, which season my nerves because he smothers every meal in sauce so if its not rinsed it just dries solid

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diddl · 08/09/2014 11:41

Pj bottoms in the kitchen??

A trail of his crud?

TBH I'd LTB.

I really couldn't be doing with that amount of disrespect.

I cook, clean, wash, iron.

Everyone benefits from that!

But to expect me to pick up after them as well, no fucking way!

And I assume he knows that the letting agents are coming today?

ArabellaTarantella · 08/09/2014 11:46

Mop bathroom with his towel. Lay on his sheet with all other crud on top. Pull duvet cover over it all.

Mintyy · 08/09/2014 11:55

I don't know how people can joke about this and go all rolly eyed and yeah, yeah, me too.

I couldn't live with an animal like that, I certainly couldn't find them sexually attractive, or father-of-children material.

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losthermind · 08/09/2014 12:04

Mintyy thats a bit harsh, I am in no way treated as a door mat, and he is thoughtful the majority of the time, I just would have preferred to wake up to a little less mess on a Monday morning when the letting agency is due round,

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OnlyLovers · 08/09/2014 12:23

I'm with you, Mintyy. OP, no one said you were a doormat, but it is a bit troubling all the people chuckling along and talking about 'training' and going 'Ooooh, menz, what are they like?!?'

Mintyy · 08/09/2014 12:29

Well your block capitals headline and your string of ????????? suggests that you were more annoyed than you now claim.

He's behaved really badly. Don't clean up after him, it is demeaning.

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losthermind · 08/09/2014 12:33

I an annoyed at him, and as I stated would not have cleaned or moved a thing if I didn't have the letting agency coming today, for that reason only I wasn't allowing my home to look a shithole when a stranger is coming to inspect it

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HappyAgainOneDay · 08/09/2014 12:33

OP, why not leave everything where it is? Find his toothbrush and put it somewhere undesirable and put his flannel / sponge on the floor in the bathroom or toilet. He can clear it up himself when he returns home.

Mintyy · 08/09/2014 12:35

How did you respond to his text?

EggsAreRound · 08/09/2014 12:36

Don't clean up after him, it is demeaning. would be fine if it wasn't for If it wasn't for the letting agency coming to do their 6 monthly review Id leave it all for him to move himself.

EggsAreRound · 08/09/2014 12:37

Hah, I am too slow, lost beat me to it!

Mintyy · 08/09/2014 12:39

Yes, I did see that the Lettings Agency was coming round. However, I am obviously more hardline than many of you. The house wasn't dirty, just untidy.

diddl · 08/09/2014 12:58

TBH I don't really get how this happens.

I don't know if we're a wierd family, go to bathroom, shower, dry, hang towel up, clean undies on or make a dash to bedroom, dirty undies in wash box if we had any on.

Or carry back what we took off.

How do pjs get spread around the house?

OnlyLovers · 08/09/2014 13:00

Me either, diddl! I mean, you'd have to make more effort to take off bits of your pjs at different points in the house, surely? And why was the sofa messed up? That's the bit that really puzzles me.

I probably need a life.

PedlarsSpanner · 08/09/2014 13:11

You eye rollers and hah!what are they likers oughtta read Wifework

PumpkinsMummy · 08/09/2014 13:21

I don't roll my eyes, I point out I'm not his slave and that while as a SAHM I will accept responsibility for the lions share of the housework, I am not a maid and that his treating the house like this is demeaning. His answer is usually that my standards are too high and that it doesn't bother him. He will get round to things if I ask, but he tends to forget he's left things and wander off then get distracted. However, I do think that this is something that as a parent needs to be addresses early on. My DS, 3 gets told to pick his own things up etc.

I don't think it's a deal breaker per se but it does cause tension. His good qualities far outweigh his bad, but if his mess was down to anything other than absent mindedness I would be employing more drastic strategies.

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losthermind · 08/09/2014 14:38

I did not reply to his text, too busy clearing everyones mess up, think he buggered up the sofa looking for his lighter, hes had a cheeky smoke first thing then couldn't find his lighter as he was leaving the house, thas my explanation anyway. hes took his top off and flung it downstairs before he got in the shower, bypassed it then flung his bottoms and towel on the kitchen floor.......shant be happening again I have 2 children and don't need an overgrown 3rd

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toomuchtooold · 08/09/2014 14:56

pedlars I'm aware of Wifework and I don't see that it argues against eyerolling. The point is that women take responsibility for so much in opposite-sex relationships including the emotional work and the work to make the relationship appear equal. If we're not to eye-roll is that because it's (still) our responsibility to take action to change our relationships?

rainbowinmyroom · 08/09/2014 15:02

What Mintty wrote. I wouldn't put up with this from my 5-year-old son or daughter.

bonzo77 · 08/09/2014 15:13

Take photos. Post on face book. Tag him in them.

Anything you need to pick up put under the duvet in his side of the bed.

Bogeyface · 08/09/2014 15:43

I am really petty so when the letting agents have been I would put everything back exactly as he left it, and yes that would include chucking water on the bathroom floor and talc in the lounge!