Aibu to ask mil to stop wearing perfume?

[Eminybob]

Just when she visits?

I'm not sure what perfume it is but it's so strong and is awful. I've just come downstairs and the living room still stinks of it, and she left at 5pm yesterday.

Plus 8 week old DS smells of her after she's been cuddling him,until he's been bathed.

DP says I can't say anything to her, but honestly, it's making me feel ill even now.

(Yes I know this is a relative non-issue,but she's pissed me off about countless other things I can't be arsed to go into so I'm in a bad mood with her anyway)

Meet her somewhere else for a while. Go to the park with her.

I have this with my Mum- I get a wheeze from her perfume Red Door, and she used to wear Coty's L'aimant as well!! It's hideous as she always sprays it on her scarf, and coat, so any journey in the car is just hellish as she reeks even though she "didn't put any on" - but it's on her clothes!!

I bought her some lovely perfumes and mentioned that I was wheezy after her visit, and was she wearing perfume, and which one was it, and please not to wear that one again!

Sometimes you have to bit he the bullet. If you don't want her to linger in your house or on your babe, meet her somewhere else, preferably in the open air, and if you want her to smell 'better', buy her a perfume and tell her you're developing a sensitivity to her old one and could she please not wear it when visiting.

If she's nice she'll understand, and if she's not, meet her somewhere else.

It's your house, and your babe. Do whatever you think is best for you.

Oh cunning artandco, yes, involve an imaginary third party!

I can't stand perfume in general. It is my biggest migraine trigger in most cases and I feel vile for up to 24 hours after exposure. I rant about selfish people who spray it on buses, in public toilets etc. Why? I have never needed to do this. If you just don't like the smell it may be different but I don't feel that objecting to someone's perfume is BU because I do.

Consider how you would react if she asked you not to wear perfume.
This will give you an idea whether you have the sort of relationship where it would be okay to mention it.
If you have to say something make the excuse that the baby is wheezy and reacts to strong perfume.