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AIBU?

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Original poster

to wish they would stop going soft play?!

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Happypenguin2014 · 07/09/2014 22:41

A newish soft llay area has opened up in our small town.

a group of "women" go every single day. Some of the women have school aged children.i feel too intimidated tk go as myself and my friends dont get on with them.

There is 18 going tomorrow. It's only small and only a few tables/chairs.

aibu to wanr to shout "go away!!"

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 07/09/2014 23:02

Sounds like you live in a very desirable area

Get outside and stop going to bleedin soft play,!once in a while fine, but you do know you can get fruit shoots elsewhere don't you?

PedlarsSpanner · 07/09/2014 23:03

Tbh if it's a smallish soft play and ye already know 18 "women"* are going then that'll be at least 18 children. Ugh!

*called "scare quotes" for the budding cunning linguist

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Happypenguin2014 · 07/09/2014 23:05

Ha.

I actually dont go for myself. I have a very good friend who has an one year old. She is suffering from pnd and loneliness, so I try and get her to groups ect.

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 07/09/2014 23:06

Well this isn't going to help her

Get outdoors, fresh air, walks, park, playground, coffee afterwards

Only1scoop · 07/09/2014 23:07

If you stop going there for a while it will probably do wonders for you and your friend.

Think of something else nice and go for it.

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Happypenguin2014 · 07/09/2014 23:08

We do. I have a first hand experience as I also have pnd.

We will leave soft play for now.

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ElephantsNeverForgive · 07/09/2014 23:10

Sadly school stupidity does continue into adult life. My DSIS would avoid the pub where the queen bee and her unpleasant side kick sat at the bar and Lorded it over us lesser mortal.

By the oddest twist of fate a disastrous marriage brought the queen bee down with a bump. She saw sense, married DSIS best friend's brother,said sorry and they are now good friends.

The cow who always had a smart alec comment for me had not improved last time I had much to do with her. Sadly some people never grow up.

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 07/09/2014 23:10

Can you take the babies swimming

Or maybe join a buggyfit class

Exercise really helps lift spirits I find, especially outdoors

PedlarsSpanner · 07/09/2014 23:12

Children's Centre might be more useful

GiveTwoSheets · 07/09/2014 23:12

Do you have a local sure start centre? They run all kinds of groups and are much smaller & friendlier especially if your friend has pnd.

Tbh soft play places are my kind of hell even back when I had my first 17years ago

PedlarsSpanner · 07/09/2014 23:13

Oh yes to outside stuff

UnacceptableWidge · 07/09/2014 23:17

YANBU to wish you could go without feeling intimidated but the park will probably be just as much fun for little one and if you buy a take out coffee from somewhere or take a flask it'll be like a soft play without the entry fee.

As an aside don't these places charge by the hour? Will these mean girls have to pay extra to be in there such a long time or do they spend enough on drinks to make it worth the owners not having a finish time to the session?

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 07/09/2014 23:18

Most soft plays I have ever been to charge a one off price

They sometimes restrict how long you can stay if it's busy, but that is all

PunkrockerGirl · 07/09/2014 23:18

My dc are adults now. The more I read on MN, the more thankful I am that soft play places were not around when my dc were small. They sound like a complete and utter fucking nightmare.

noblegiraffe · 07/09/2014 23:35

A group of women, some of whose children are in school go to soft play for five hours a day?

My kids like soft play, but they wouldn't want to live there!

gingerbreadroll · 07/09/2014 23:42

YABU not to write a proper sentence in your thread title. It's going TO.

GiveTwoSheets · 07/09/2014 23:45

Seriously ginger is that the only helpful reply you could manage?

iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 07/09/2014 23:46

Helpful!!

MagpieMama · 07/09/2014 23:46

So the ones who have children in school, are they going to soft play without their kids? So there's 18 women and like 5 kids?

GiveTwoSheets · 08/09/2014 00:02

Only need one ! Not two

Rabbitcar · 08/09/2014 06:37

Many of the comments on here seem nasty/snobby about soft play, when this is clearly not the point of the thread.

OP, these women sound horrible. Maybe just go there occasionally and complain to the manager if they become abusive. And try and do some other stuff as well, eg the park etc.. But I hate the idea that they are intimidating you to that extent. It's really not fair.

insancerre · 08/09/2014 06:52

Avoid these women
Avoid the soft play. Your children are not losing out by not going
Go to the park or the library or the children's centre or a mother and toddlers group

WanderingTrolley1 · 08/09/2014 06:59

It sounds like my idea of hell, Happy, and that's without the bullying/intimidation aspect.

Do you have a park nearby? Or a pool? I'd be inclined to pass on the soft play.

Tenementfunster · 08/09/2014 07:52

Wow there's so many nasty spiteful bitchy posters on one thread.
You should be ashamed of yourselves.
On a thread about being bullied.

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 08/09/2014 07:53

On the positive side, at least you know where these people are all day, everyday, which means you can go to other activities/places safe in the knowledge that at least they won't be there!

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