To think this isn't our fault.

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My friends child is lovely but has massive tantrums. They are full on. My dd plays with her regularly.
Once my dad too dd over to play with this girl as I was busy and when I came to pick dd up they were having an argument over straws.
Her dd had a massive tantrum and flailed around kicking her mum etc.
her mum told me that the tension had been building between them all day. We were off on holiday abroad the next day. These parents hate the sun and going abroad and are happiest camping in England. No big deal.... Each to their own. But apparently was boasting about our holiday abroad and said she didn't like camping. ( not great but natural for a child and adults do this too.) apparently my dd is like a teenager( she is 6)
My dd sometimes refuses to play with the girl and this brings on a tantrum.
Luckily the next day we went away but I was cross. My dad is with her mum and assures me that this girl tantrums when we are not around.
I came back and we agreed that the girls should play very seldom for now as apparently her dd was in a foul mood for 4 days afterwards and was very angry and difficult.
I do think the girls have a tricky relationship but Aibu to think that the moods that go on for days are not dds fault.

Did your friend suggest the length of her DD's mood was your DD's fault?

This sounds like 6 of one and a half dozen of the other. Your child was winding her up and she took the bait. That's what 6 year olds tend to do.

I think seeing less of each other is a good idea anyway if they're not getting on. Remember they didn't choose each other as friends...their Mums are the ones who chose each other.

Agreeing with WorraLiberty, unless a lot more was said that hasn't been posted here it sounds like 6 of of one.

I think both are to blame and if the kids don't get on then stop the play dates. to be honest I would be very annoyed with my child boasting about a holiday to the extent it upset another child. I would speak to her about that.

The mother really needs to put a stop to this petty squabbling IMHO.

No big deal.... Each to their own. But apparently was boasting about our holiday abroad and said she didn't like camping. ( not great but natural for a child and adults do this too

Whilst it's natural for a child to boast, normally if an an adult is there they would put Stop to it. Tbh it sounds like your child was being unkind, and I don't think it's unreasonable for the other child to be hurt and get in a mood

Her dd had a massive tantrum and flailed around kicking her mum etc.

Am I the only one to think that 6 sounds way too old for her to be having a tantrum on this scale?

Anyway it sounds like they both might be happier not playing together.

"My dad is with her mum" - wtf?

I think you've posted before about the difficult dynamics between the girls. Sounds like there is quite a bit of jealousy/competitiveness going on. I think the other girl is your dad's step-daughter - is that right?

They're clearly not getting on so just put any future playdates on hold and perhaps see your dad separately?

It's not all your fault. It sounds like there is a lot of tension between them and that the other little girl is struggling. I think you are right to keep the apart for now.

Just because you are friends doesn't mean your dds should be . Put distance between them, it is your fault if you insist on encouraging them to play together.

That's very true Lizs.