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Original poster

To politely request

52 replies

LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 11:24

That if you want to discuss Christmas, you post in the Christmas Topic?

Where you will find an abundance of others who want to discuss it too. All sparkly and twinkly and atmospheric and in my list of hidden topics

Cheers!

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Smilesandpiles · 07/09/2014 14:58

Fireworks do need to be banned though. They are unnecessary and dangerous and should never have been allowed to be bought by the general public.

Liceneced displayes only...

Actually talking about fireworks has reminded me....

AuntieStella · 07/09/2014 14:59

I think reminding people that there are topics other than AIBU is always a good idea. And that posting considerately is always a Good Thing.

But yes there are others who think it's OK to put anything anywhere, anytime.

AIBU is not necessarily the right place for everything.

gamerchick · 07/09/2014 15:16

But people still moan if you use the Christmas topic.. apparently you're not supposed to even think about Christmas until December.

There is plenty of stuff I find irritating but I just don't click on it in the first place and christmas threads have Christmas in the title usually... well except this one that is.

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 07/09/2014 15:19

sorry.. it just seems a bit whingy (whingey?) to post a separate thread asking people not to post about christmas. Isn't it technically a thread about a thread? Confused

And isn't it possible to simply ignore the few that filter through?

AppleAndMelon · 07/09/2014 15:21

Christmas? ShockHmm yanbu

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 15:42

Alice Call it whingey if you like. I wasn't asking people not to post about Christmas, only to use the Christmas topic.

Not everyone is even aware that it exists. Of course it's possible to ignore the threads, it's even easier if they don't appear in a topic you've hidden.

If you feel it's a TAAT feel free to report.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 15:44

Gamer would you like me to ask MNHQ to put "Christmas" in the title?

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atos35 · 07/09/2014 16:12

'Politely request' = have a good old dig at someone. This kind of thread makes me want to sigh and roll my eyes. A deliberate attempt to make the original Christmas poster feel like crap and then say 'oh but I was only politely asking'...if you don't want to read about it don't open it!

Sirzy · 07/09/2014 16:17

I notice more "don't post about Christmas threads" than I do Christmas theads tbh

MaryWestmacott · 07/09/2014 16:17

Actually as well, if you have a Christmas related problem it's best not to post it in the Christmas topic, which is full of people who are excited and enjoy Christmas. They're ok on practical "when do the delivery slots open?" type questions (FYI - in the next few weeks!) or problems like "I can't find XXX that my DD insist on" but they don't want to hear negative issues, and tend to answer "my mother's a toxic bitch and I'd like to avoid her this year" with crap like "but it's Christmas! It'll be great!"

If you are thinking about christmas now because you are dreading it and want to take the edge off potential issues before the time, then it's probably better to post in Chat or Relationships or even AIBU than Christmas.

Sirzy · 07/09/2014 16:19

And the aibus I have seen are valid ones which just happen to be about Christmas

Surely the Christmas topic is more for "what decorations?" "Which presents" type threads?

AliceDoesntLiveHereAnymore · 07/09/2014 16:19

I notice more "don't post about Christmas threads" than I do Christmas theads tbh

This, pretty much.

Are you now going to post a "please don't post about relationships in AIBU" thread as well?

I think YABU.

FreudiansSlipper · 07/09/2014 16:24

Oh these whiny threads are nearly as irritating as MN is not what it use to be

It's a public forum let mnhq police the site and report to them if something upsets you

Quite simple and AIBU is full of
threads that might trigger

MaryWestmacott · 07/09/2014 16:25

oh and if you post something like "Last year, my mum told my 3 year old Santa didn't exist, annouced 10 minutes before I served up Christmas Dinner she'd just that second decided to go veggie and I must cater for her then proceeded to deficated on my Christmas tree then kick all 10 of the DC's gifts, AIBU to refuse to invite her this year?" you'll get "but it's Christmas, and it's a time for families!" or "My Mum (who was wonderful) died and you should put up with any old crap behaviour from yours because I'd like to spend another Christmas with mine" and "you bought 10 gifts for your DCs? You obviously are a family of spoilt brats and it won't do them any harm to know the meaning of christmas isn't material things."

(Smiles - round bonfire night you'll get people frothing about organised firework displays, that all fireworks should be banned because it upsets the dogs and cats who just can't be brought in and the TV turned up loud, not just banning teens messing about with them)

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 16:27

Atos there were no sinister overtones to this. Polite is precisely what it was, nothing more. Neither was it a "dig" at any particular person and I do not know who the "original Christmas poster" is. No intention to make anyone feel crap, quite the opposite in fact.

No Alice I'm not going to post that.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 16:30

It's a public forum let mnhq police the site and report to them if something upsets you

MN is largely self moderated.

No whining going on.

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FreudiansSlipper · 07/09/2014 16:46

what are you doing then if not having a moan do you not recognise when you are coming across as a bit of a whinger like I am now about posters as yourself

whenever I have reported a thread to mnhq if they feel it should be removed they have done so and I have seen them move threads to another section

maybe not quick enough at times but you know most people are not that bothered thankfully by a thread being in the wrong section

sonjadog · 07/09/2014 16:52

Try to control what other people post on the internet is destined for failure. No point getting worked up about it.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 17:02

Not trying to control anything and I'm not worked up. Some people are though. Smile

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HannerHet · 07/09/2014 17:12

YABU

AuntieStella · 07/09/2014 18:43

"Are you now going to post a "please don't post about relationships in AIBU" thread as well? "

Doubt that's needed. If a thread which 'should' be in Relationships pops up in AIBU, the advice to get it moved appears pretty quickly. and I think that's right, though Ihave seen that concede he'd as "unwelcoming"

But it's probably totally UR to post anything about celebrating Yule/Christmas/other winter festival of your choice, until we have Fellatio.

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LuisSuarezTeeth · 07/09/2014 18:55

Auntie Fellatio? Grin

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SauvignonBlanche · 07/09/2014 18:59

YANBU at all.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 07/09/2014 19:11

Is Fellatio going to ponce this year then? Fabbo Grin

AuntieStella · 07/09/2014 19:18

It wouldn't be Christmas without some good poncing.

So I hope I comes to pass Grin

(And no, that wasn't a typo in my previous post: well, not the last sentence, though the middle bit is heading for incomprehensible. Sorry)