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to be a little peeved with dh trivial

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lancslady84 · 06/09/2014 22:44

So I am catching up on some telly and dh is playing on kindle. He asks if he can have telly once episode is over. I say yes. So before I am finished he starts litening to some stuff on you tube so I can't actually hear tv. I turn tv up. Ok probably should have asked him to turn off. He than has a cheek to moan at me for having tv too loud.
I got arsey at this point as I only turned it up because of his rudeness.
Aibu.

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AgentZigzag · 06/09/2014 22:51

Unless there's a backstory or what you've described will kick off an atmosphere that'll go on for days, YABU to give this anything other than 10 seconds headspace.

TryingNotToLaugh · 06/09/2014 22:53

Dh does this all the time with the ipad and cannot understand why it is rude.

I got him some headphones.

ilovesooty · 06/09/2014 22:53

Ok probably should have asked him to turn off

It probably would have been the sensible course of action.

AgentZigzag · 06/09/2014 22:53

I didn't mean for that to sound so clipped, I was saying it in a soft reassuring voice Smile

gingerbreadroll · 06/09/2014 22:54

Are you both children? If not why are you acting like you are?

ilovesooty · 06/09/2014 22:55

I agree Zigzag

It probably took longer to type out the OP than ten seconds as well.

catsofa · 06/09/2014 22:56

Ask him to turn it down then so you can hear the tv. At least one of you may need to wear headphones - this is traditionally the one who is using a device other than a TV because you need to sit a long way away from a tv. If he refuses, LTB but make sure you get to keep the tv.

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lancslady84 · 06/09/2014 23:04

Lots of backstory I guess. Just finding lots of things he does irritating at the moment. I think the annoying thing is that the one time I did this. (Sat in the dining room so not even close he got cross and asked me to turn off in a far more arsey manner. (Also had it on really low) . He actually gets annoyed if the kids or I even speak when his programmes are on.
All I really said was well I turned it up as I couldn't hear. He knew he only had to wait3 minutes.

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AgentZigzag · 06/09/2014 23:06

Sounds to me as though the OP has got to the point where the sound of her DH's breathing has become troublesome Grin

Sympathy OP Thanks

Have a Wine while you plan where to dispose of the body your next step.

AgentZigzag · 06/09/2014 23:13

'He actually gets annoyed if the kids or I even speak when his programmes are on.'

My mum and DD1 are like this, and it really fucks me off that they feel entitled to demand people stop going about their business while they watch whatever shit it is they're watching.

Probably with both of them it's an OCD thing that they have to hear every. single. word.

anti-freeze in his chili?

LuluJakey1 · 06/09/2014 23:23

Are you pregnant by any chance? I ask because I am and for the last 4 months I have had patches of a few days at a time every so often where every single thing DH does drives me mad- including breathing. I get to the point where I would only be happy if he lived on another planet. Thing is he has done nothing wrong- or something incredibly trivial.

It disappears- longest has been a week- but I can turn the most trivial into something that I just can not let go of.

He is remarkably tolerant. Smile

EverythingCounts · 06/09/2014 23:26

Write this one off, and learn from it. So then next time he does this, ask him to wait till you've finished watching what you're watching, or go into another room. Or if he starts talking, tell him that he asks for silence during his programmes so you'd like the same courtesy from him. This one's gone; plan for a better approach next time. (There'll be one.)

Happy36 · 06/09/2014 23:32

Sorry to hear of the back story. Hope you can give each other a little space to breathe and feel a little more comfortable soon.

I can´t really comment other than to say my husband and I don´t watch TV, use the computer (other than very urgent emails or Googling things we want to find out e.g. cinema times, train times) or read independently when we´re both at home and having "free time", unless we´re watching TV together. I appreciate you´re tired but perhaps you and your husband could do something together to relax, rather than separately. I really do not mean to say this in anything but a spirit of friendly suggestion.

MrsCurrent · 06/09/2014 23:34

You were even allowed to start watching something? Bloody miracle if I get the remote, it's irritating me ATM. Stroppy bollocks stormed off to bed cos I wanted tl watch 1 program this week, 1 in a week. Boys and TVs, argh!

PiperIsOrange · 06/09/2014 23:38

I'm glad my DH is a gamer who spends all evening on his headset and PC. I MN on my pad,don't even get the remote as I have an app that turns the sky box over.

AgentZigzag · 06/09/2014 23:53

Hahaha, never heard of that app before, and they do it on android Grin

PiperIsOrange · 06/09/2014 23:55

AgentZigzag DH doesn't even know, he is convinced there is something wrong with the box :)

cherrybombxo · 06/09/2014 23:58

My OH does this, he insists that I can have control of Netflix on the big TV but then watches YouTube videos on his macbook. He sometimes mumbles something unintelligible and turns the volume down but moans if I even politely ask him to turn it off or go in the other room. It's really rude.

PiperIsOrange · 07/09/2014 00:00

Cherry I have also discovered my pad can turn Netflix over as well, download the app sign in and go from there.

cherrybombxo · 07/09/2014 00:00

Actually, his most recent thing is waiting until I'm absolutely engrossed in a programme or an article on my iPad and then he starts talking to me about the referendum, asking if I've seen a video about it from that day and if I say no then he gets it up on YouTube and starts playing it over my show. He's a total armchair politician at the moment and it's driving me mental, it's all he bloody talks about!

AgentZigzag · 07/09/2014 00:12

Grin Piper, and there was me thinking I might be being unreasonable not telling DD if I got it.

I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face though Grin

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/09/2014 00:20

My DH also does this.

Happily watching my programme and he'll start blaring some random video through his iPad.

I stare at him until he stops or leaves the room.

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lancslady84 · 07/09/2014 12:40

Well I was surprised I was given an hour to catch up. Not pregnant but going through a fairly rough menopause. Just sometimes that everything is all about him.

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lancslady84 · 07/09/2014 12:40

Feels

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 07/09/2014 19:39

headphones are your friend Smile