to think its weird to read your partners texts/emails?

[SailorEverRose]

I'm not trying to be all "cool wife" but I just can't see a reason for ever checking a partners phone. The only reason I would is because I thought they were cheating.

I have nothing to hide and no secrets from my partner but I wouldn't want anyone reading through my personal messages, so why would I do it to someone else?

It wouldn't occur to me to look at DH's phone. I would answer it for him if it was ringing while he was driving but that's it. DH isn't chatty. I can't imagine his texts being very interesting

I don't have a password on my phone.

I'd be surprised if DH were to read my phone messages.

I've no interest in checking DHs texts and he is such a dinosaur he could never figure out my phone!

I don't go out of my way to look at DH's texts/emails but occasionally we use each other's phones for whatever reason and I wouldn't have a problem with him seeing what was in my inbox. I had to ask him to forward something using my email the other day and didn't worry about it at all.

I don't find it interesting to read somebody else's texts and don't get why teenagers are obsessed with it so I wouldn't bother. In any case we mostly use IM to contact people for "interesting" stuff and texts are very boring things when we're away from a computer like "Can you get some milk please, ta"

We have each other's email accounts on our phones as well as our own so we can check easily if using the other's phone for some reason

I'm curious. what incident has this ever happened? If I was waiting for an important call then no-one would use my phone (especially if they had their own)

And what email is so important it can't wait 5 minutes for the other to stop using your phone?

And we read each other's texts sometimes in bored moments to see what's going on

In what way? If I want to see whats going on with my partner I have a conversation with him.

We absolutely trust each other - we have such dull lives that we don't really have much to hide. I used to be in a relationship with a cheater and would never ever have looked at his emails or texts as he was intensely private about them - for obvious reasons.

Same here. :)

OH doesn't have a phone. He uses mine but regards texts as being private.

Emails, we don't read each others (unless invited) but we have no reason to doubt each other.

He did ask me the password for his old computer as he had forgotten it but as he had never shared that with me, I couldn't help.

I agree. Whenever I hear or read of people reading their OH's texts or emails then you have to think, they knew something was up beforehand, didn't they?

I might ask him if he wants me to read a text out if he's driving or cooking, but I'd never just do it. He'd do the same, I imagine.

But no, emails and texts are private and if you trust your partner, part of that is respecting their privacy. Plus I imagine it'd just be texts about football...

koala It literally would not occur to me to look at anything on anyone's phone - I wouldn't swipe through photos, there might be naked stuff on there!

I was so shocked I really gave her a piece of my mind, which shocked her. Boundaries innit. Mine are HIGH.

Each other's phones - we're both very bad at remembering to charge our phones so often have one phone working between us when on journeys etc.

Reading texts - not what's going on with each other's lives as we really do know that, but I tend to see what texts he's got from his mum, as he forgets to tell me about them and she is often asking for present ideas, practical arrangements etc that he won't reply to. He doesn't really read mine actually.

We look at each other's phones sometimes in the context of "I'm driving, can you answer that text" or "my battery's dead, can I use yours?" and might idly have a quick nose through the messages.

We also share an iTunes account so our phones are linked by iCloud. At one point something went wrong and we were actually both receiving our own and each other's text messages for a whil, which neither of us had a problem with. I leave my Facebook account open on our joint iPad etc. We don't really put value on privacy from each other, nothing to hide and our friendship group is fairly joint too so no exciting secrets.

That all sounds familiar, Strawberry. My husband doesn't use FB but we have loads of mutual friends so just looks at mine. The app is on our family iPad, and permanently logged in.

It's like handbags isn't it. I have no problem with DH, dc, even my mil getting something from my handbag but some people are really funny about it.

I share passwords to everything with DP, I can't see any reason not to, email, my laptop, phone doesn't even have a pin on it and neither does his. We don't read each others messages etc but I really wouldn't mind if he did, or him me. He has the details as there has been times when he needs to check something, I gave him my phone for the day when his was broken. I think if you have nothing to hide then acting like you do is bloody weird.

I've got no interest in going through DH's email or messages and I have never just gone through his phone/email out of curiosity. But I do know his passwords so I could do it at any time. Also, if he receives an SMS and his phone is near me I've got no problem reading it. If I need to find some email in his inbox I would look for it without asking permission. I wouldn't read his personal stuff though, that would be slightly weird. The same unspoken rules go for him as well.

Should add that even though I could, I wouldn't just go on his phone and read texts/emails except where one flashed up and I happened to see it flash and knew it was urgent. He could access mine but I doubt he would and I'd be pretty pissed off if he did - except in circumstances such as one flashes up or I'm driving.

I read all my dh emails- he is crap with technology and so it is easier to give everyone my email!
Although I dont look at his facebook account everytime it goes wrong I have to fix it.
If his phone beeps I will have a peek if hes not around and he does the same.
It doesnt mean we dont trust each other.

I wouldn't read my partners texts/emails without her knowing and equally she wouldn't read mine......however we have the same code on our phones and if I'm busy or don't have a free hand will ask her to read my texts to me and she does likewise.....we have nothing to hide but at the same time respect each other enough not to snoop and have enough confidence and security in our relationship not to doubt or worry.....I like it...and having been in a dysfunction cheating lying relationship before it feels wonderful not to be angst ridden

I'm with you, OP. If DH got a text my first thought wouldn't be to go snooping, but to tell him that he had a message.
Likewise if he heard my phone go, I'd hope he'd tell me first, which he does. Not because I've got anything to hide, just because it's common courtesy.
We trust each other.

My DP regularly reads my texts/emails/has a nosy through my call log. He likes to check I'm not chatting to other guys (his words not mine lol), but neither of us has cheated and he always says he trusts me whenever I've had the odd moan about lack of privacy

Pretty there's no way I could treat controlling behaviour like that as some kind of joke.

I wouldn't dream of ever looking at DH's phone. Similarly, I would be horrified if he looked at mine. Nothing to hide, just feels really, really wrong.

I would be cross if DH checked my phone or emails, it's very controlling behaviour and I am not a child.

I am a bit funny over my handbag too although there's nothing much in there but always remember my mum saying handbags are private so it just stuck.

I don't find it controlling ilovesooty, it's just who he is

Its a deal breaker for me. Dh going through my personal stuff is unacceptable and I don't go through his. Way too controlling for me

i stand over DH when he has post that concerns me but is addressed to him, ie. finances.
he flicks through it and gives it to me to suss out.