Hi, long time lurker, needed new password so started from scratch. This might be long don't want to drip feed.
Ok so my ss has lived with me and his dad all his life, he has regular contact with his biological mother. She has always disliked me, understandable I suppose, I am living with the son she left. He calls me mum and everything for the past 11 years has been great, he is doing so well in school has great friends always busy at sailing clubs or sleepovers etc. So last week we get a phone call saying "ss does not want to come home" Dh was really shocked nothing has been mentioned about him wanting to live there, it would mean a change in schools, we will only see him once a fortnight. He has not started school, he is supposed to be having a meeting next week, so he won't be starting school for ages. We have not been allowed to see him or really speak to him properly, I don't know what to do? If he is happy then that is what we want.
I have called social services, they told me that as both parents has parental responsibility then what she is doing is perfectly ok, she can stop us seeing him and we will have to go to court, I know I am rambling on, I am trying to explain myself but it is just such am emotional time. I just cannot believe he just decided to stay there. We are not allowed to see him until next Friday, my oh asked if he could come over before his school meeting and we were told he haas things on. So no. I did not act like an adult I shouted down the phones she was a " fucking cunt" not big or clever but emotions got the better of me. We just miss him so much and it is the emotional effects this might have on him in years to come he is just a baby in the great scheme of things, but if he really wants to stay I don't want to drag him through the courts for him to decide to live there in the end.
Thank you for staying with me, basically how so I handle this for the best