to think it's off to leave your under 3 year old overnight with someone neither you nor them have met.

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Just that really.

On the face of it, YANBU. I can't imagine leaving my children with someone I don't know.

There must be more to this story...

We clearly need more info.

Leaving child with random stranger plucked from street? YABU.

Leaving child with trained nanny, having checked references/ qualifications etc? YANBU.

And all manner of scenarios in between.

I'm presuming arranged through a nanny/babysitting agency rather than dragging some random in off the street?

The person asked was me. Never met her or her child. Friend of a friend for a night on the piss. Was willing to pay me silly money.
I said no as I wasn't comfortable having a 2.5 year old overnight who I've never met.

Trying not to be judgy.

Yanbu.

You just are not.

Well I think it's not right but playing devils advocate there are a lot of working parents who would use emergency childcare agencies where it would be exactly that situation.

Haha. No, I'm not a nanny or childminder. No childcare experience bar my own child.

Emergency childcare for work is a totally different kettle of fish to a night out on the beers

Judge away. For all the parent knows you could be an axe murderer!

YANBU and the mother is all colours of wrong.

What do you think parents who works nights do.

Well you come recommended by a mutual friend who you both presumably trust
But yes, a bit unusual

Awful - no, her friend didn't ask her, her friend's friend did. Who she has never met. The OP has said this!

I don't think asking your mate to take your 3 year old for the night is off, no.

Friend of a friend.

And unless it's an emergency, even with a fully trained registered professional I don't particularly think it's right.

The OP says quite clearly that it's a friend of a friend and that she hasn't met the parent or the child.

Anyway - YANBU.

Is leaving your child with a person they have never met really worth it for going on the piss.....seems the mothers priorities are wrong

I think your right to say no!

It's not for my friend! It's for her friend.
Who I've never met.

I've also never met her child.

Plus they gave only known each other a month or so as it is.

Theawfuldaughter - she's never met the mother ! They're not friends

Eh Daughter?

The child is the offspring of a friend of a friend to the OP. The OP has never met the mother or the child. I trust my friends and would have been happy for my 2 yo to stay with them overnight but I wouldn't leave my child with someone I didn't know who just happened to be a friend of someone I did know.

yanbu at all. It's interesting to compare to threads where people about v young dc going to stay with mil......

Awful

No, op isn't her friend. Op hasn't even met the woman who is happy to offload to her child. Hasn't met her child either.

Reading the very first post tends to be helpful.

I left my son at about that age with my best friends' father and stepmother. They were staying with my friend and volunteered to look after her 3 year old daughter and my son so all the parents could go to a Hogmanay party.

My son and I had never met them before although obviously my son knew my friend's daughter.