My dad has motor neurone disease. He has lived downstairs for several years, with a bed in the living room and a commode in the same place. He has carers 4 times a day. His quality of life is awful. He can't move or speak but is exactly the same guy mentally as he always was. He is hoisted out of bed and seen to by the carers. He goes to the loo in the living room and hasn't had a bath or shower in all these years. My mum is there too. She is very frail, blind and has terminal cancer. I moved in a while back so I could help in whatever way I could - shopping, cleaning, hospital appointments etc. We applied for a grant to convert the garage into a bedroom and wet room. It took 18 months but we finally got there. Mum and dads contribution was assessed as £700. Finance officer came out today to carry out a final review of everything before the work started (builders chosen, designs already drawn etc). During this review, it came up that I lived there. She said this changed everything and that we would now have to pay £6000 rather than £700. We are devastated. We don't have that kind of money. I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach. I said if it came to it, I'd move out. She said they'd now look on that as fraudulently trying to claim the grant. AIBU in feeling that there is no justice and my dad deserves this grant and that the council policy is a bag of steaming horse shit?