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Original poster

To think this is a weird set up

45 replies

crazylady321 · 05/09/2014 16:18

A girl who lives 3 doors down aged 5 lives with her mum and 2 older siblings she has a different dad to the others and ive noticed every fortnight she has Friday off school and he collects her about dinner time and then she returns home on a monday. Today ive seen him collect her again.

Im intrigued to know how they get away with this surely school must be concerned. I know them to say hi to and the little girl often plays with the kids Ive cheekily asked her a while ago how come she misses school on those days and she said she goes to Barnsley (presuming thats where dad lives). Not judging them as nothing is black and white but im so curious, I know as a parent I wouldnt be happy about a child missing school so much. She turned 5 in the sumer hols noticed the birthday banners so now shes at an age where she must attend school you would think school would be involved?

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girlwiththegruffalotattoo · 05/09/2014 16:20

I know, as a parent, I wouldn't be happy with a neighbour quizzing my 5yo. What's it got to do with you. YABU

LurkingHusband · 05/09/2014 16:21

Why do you think she has to attend school ?

NickiFury · 05/09/2014 16:22

Mind your own business. I don't think I have ever read such an unashamedly nosy and judgemental OP.

MammaTJ · 05/09/2014 16:22

Maybe this school year things will change.

Maybe not.

How do you have the time to take so much notice of neighbours 3 doors down?

amyhamster · 05/09/2014 16:23

I think it's lovely the school supporting her seeing her non resident parent

cestlavielife · 05/09/2014 16:24

she may be ticked as attending a different educational establishment on that day with full blessing of the LA. none of your business.

AlpacaMyBags · 05/09/2014 16:24

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londonrach · 05/09/2014 16:25

You do seem nosey op...

UriGeller · 05/09/2014 16:25

So by prior arrangement with the school, she leaves early every other Friday as her dad picks her up to spend the weekend in Barnsley?

That's hardly missing "so much" school. And the school should be commended for supporting maintaining her relationship with her father.

girlwiththegruffalotattoo · 05/09/2014 16:26

It is incredibly inappropriate to question a small child on private family matters. I would be furious if this was my child.

UriGeller · 05/09/2014 16:26

High fives Amyhamster

gordyslovesheep · 05/09/2014 16:27

maybe it's not your business Ms Curtain Twitcher

amyhamster · 05/09/2014 16:27

Uri - I think the op says she has every other Friday with no school

amyhamster · 05/09/2014 16:28

Uri Grin high fives back

Gileswithachainsaw · 05/09/2014 16:29

And it didn't occur to you that maybe things are set up in a way where thus cab all happen with no disruption to her education?

Maybe work is emailed to them or Fridays are fun Fridays where little work takes place. Perhaps the dad is a teacher and Co times the education on the days he has her as he works part time?

Wouldn't her being happy and having the relationship with her dad have positive effect on the days she is at school?

Myob

waithorse · 05/09/2014 16:30

And I thought I was nosey.. Grin

Gileswithachainsaw · 05/09/2014 16:30

Continues

WhatsMyAgeAgain · 05/09/2014 16:35

Mind your own fuckin business. You have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. Plenty of children have reduced timetables to accommodate personal circumstances.

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crazylady321 · 05/09/2014 16:39

ok forget it sorry i spoke, I did say i know im nosey so thanks for telling me. Was just curious to reasons that is all

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Stratter5 · 05/09/2014 16:42

Meh, my 16 yo DD2 was on half days for most of the last school year. Wonder what the neighbours made of that.

Icelollycraving · 05/09/2014 16:43

Is your name Michael Caine?

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crazylady321 · 05/09/2014 16:44

Dont see the need to be so aggresive with me ffs, and i am not judging anyone with my own set up im sure its not to most peoples standards I was just curious to know what reasons would this be possible to get away with it? Maybe I didnt make myself clear and at least I admit im a nosey neighbour

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HallowedVera · 05/09/2014 16:47

I'd be curious too. Your OP doesn't read as judgey to me.

Maybe you shouldn't have asked her directly - that's crossing a bit of a line. But you're right, it seems odd she can get away with having every other Friday off school.

NickNackNooToYou · 05/09/2014 16:50

It is nosey and I'd be curious too. However I realise I'm a nosey mare and would be the first to say so and that it's truly none of my business.

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crazylady321 · 05/09/2014 16:52

HallowedVera - well thank you I do try not to judge because Ive had all sorts of problems in the past and I know how people can be. I can see I may of crossed a line asking the girl but I wasnt really in her face or anything she was in my garden playing and talking about all sorts. My neighbours have asked my kids stuff all time I do think its nosey but ive never been furious

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