Aibu to simply not bother seeing or contacting people who get on my tits?

[CeliaFate]

Sil and bil - haven't seen them since May. Haven't missed them.
Friend who is becoming Alf Garnett - Haven't seen them since start of August. Not intending to make contact either.

I'm not deliberately going "non contact" or anything dramatic. It's just that I have absolved myself of the guilt of thinking "I should ring xyz" when their mere presence makes me want to scream. I neither ring, email or text. I don't make any plans to see them, they've stopped being significant in my life.

AIBU?

Nope!

It's how most of us edit our friends.

ILs can't of course be ignored forever, but there's no reason why you should do anything other than be civil to them when you're next all present at some family occasion.

YANBU. Life is far too short.

I think, once you're a "grown-up", life really is too short to spend precious spare time, money and energy on people whose company you don't honestly enjoy.

The problem is, if you make the effort when you really don't want to, they might end up reciprocating. Then you've doubled your pain.

You may as well stick pins in your arm (but obviously don't do this..).

YANBU.
I've been feeling this way about a so called best mate who I haven't seen since the start of May when she came round to see newborn DD, she lives about 5 pissing minutes away now.
We've had a few text conversations & I have rung her until it always rings to answerphone. Kept asking when was convenient to meet up over summer holidays, and never got a proper answer from her.
I read through the text conversations we've had & she's forever coming up with excuses.....I give up now & refuse to ring or text until I hear from her first if it were to ever happen

I've done this for years, it's a useful way of 'culling' people from your life who are a waste of energy. It's not always acrimonious either, if I realise that all the effort in a relationship is one sided or I never see someone cos they don't make the effort, then I just stop making the effort back. Totally reasonable way to conduct your life, why martyr yourself at the altar of friendship when it's not reciprocated?

It's how adults behave; if you don't like it don't do it.