To be fed of the " because it's just you two" comments?

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Dd are on our own and I'm relatively happy with this. It would have been nice to have the support of a bloke but it hasn't happened. However I've noticed lots of comments recently that involve the phrase" because it's just you two!" Agggrrr!

Me: I'm exhausted.
Person: "it's because it's just you two."

Me: dd didn't feel like going to the water park.
Person " it's because it's just you two. "

Me: dd is going through a phase where she dosnt want to do anything.
Person: "it's because it's just you two."

Aggggggggr!!!!!!! I think it's the "just" that bothers me the most as though we are not a "proper" family.

I would have liked the traditional 2.4 family set up but it didn't work out that way and I'm no longer going to sell myself short to obtain that.

Plus there are many things I like about it being "just" us two. We have a very close bond. Also dd has lots of mates and family members on hand.

I know people mean well and are probably in awe that I'm doing it all on my own but I reckon that many kids go through the " I don't want to do anything stage." Especially during the summer holidays if up all night at family entertainment in hotels.

I've said all of your comments, and have the requisite 2 kids, 1 husband.

I used get 'It's just a phase, you were just like that when you were little' from my mum, which doesn't really help.

Eventually I said to her that I didn't want or need advice, I just wanted to whinge about it, and if she could just say 'Oh, poor you. That must be tough', and then offer me a slice of cake, that it would really be helpful.

Sounds like you are doing brilliantly, so just ignore!

No YANBU, but I do think its true that DC are often keener to do stuff if they have a friend along, rather than just their mum. My 6-year-old DS is generally rather lukewarm about having a day out with just me for company, but if I invite of his friends along too it changes everything.

We like doing things with others regularly but I also love doing stuff with dd " just us two".

It was just me and my mum and I loved it. Had the strongest bond ever with her, loved her to bits. Just reply while hugging dd " yes we are blessed/ so lucky we just have to please ourselves". I loved it. Best mum ever.

I don't even understand why there being 'just' two of you would make much difference in the cases you have mentioned! A neighbour of mine is a single mum to a teenage daughter and another neighbour insisted that their plan to spend last Christmas at home together was 'miserable' and that they should go round to his house. I was mortified at the way he was carrying on, as though there was something inherently unfestive about spending Christmas together like they did the rest of the year, but he wouldn't let up. They are perfectly happy and have a very close relationship, so I'm sure they wouldn't have wanted him barking at them all day anyway...

I get so much pity and shock at the fact that ds and I have holidayed on our own since he was little! "just the two of you?!" pisses me off no end.

this is odd. it really is just the 2 of us, me and DS and we've always travelled just us 2, done everything just us 2, no one's ever said a thing about it!